THERE IS NO SECURITY IN INSECURITY
The word insecurity is one of those words that many people can associate with in some shape form or fashion. For some people their insecurity is related to appearance: big nose, receding hairline, weight problems, complexion, body proportion… or maybe it’s public speaking, athletic prowess, background, social status, talents, dating… The problem is generally not the insecurities but rather how you process and deal with those insecurities.
The above list provides an outline of some insecurities and those insecurities can seriously affect an individuals life. Insecure individuals are often negative, complain about themselves, complain about others, put others down to make themselves look/feel better and are generally a drain to those around them.
If you think insecure people can be difficult as friends, family, spouses or co-workers; try having them as a leader… this can be a nightmare for them and their employees. I have worked for a number of insecure leaders and once I acknowledged they were insecure; I found myself having to be really patient or spend unnecessary time and energy working around their insecurities. Here are some thoughts about insecure leaders and their ineffectiveness:
- They are control freaks and can’t give away any authority
- They do whatever it takes to “prove” they are the boss
- They always think that there is a hidden agenda
- They like to play it safe, stay in comfort zone and avoid risk
- They don’t celebrate others successes or celebrate their subordinates success
- They are threatened by sharp employees and quality performers (10’s)
What I have come to realize is that insecure leaders can try to “fake it until they make it” but this will only last for so long. An insecure leader will create an environment of insecurity and only rise to the level of their insecurity. Insecure leaders need to get over themselves because no one really cares about them as much as they think… believe me as my girl Anna Meadows says; “Everyone is to busy worrying about themselves, to worry about you.” The bottom line is “There Is No Security In Insecurity.”
Have you, do you work for or are you an insecure leader? Share your thoughts and comments!