One of the most important interpersonal skills is the ability to be authentic. Authenticity is simply defined as — the quality or condition of being authentic or genuine. That seems like such a no-brainer and easy thing to do; however authenticity is more difficult to come by than not.
In order to have healthy, productive and legitimate interactions, individuals must learn how to become authentic. Start by asking yourself questions like, “Who Am I Really?” “Who Was I Created To Be?” “Am I acting this way because I’ve been trained to or is this really me?” Any of these type of questions will help individuals begin to be gut level honest with who they really are. Until we truly know who we are and become comfortable with who we are, we will have a tendency to lack authenticity.
The lack of authenticity does not only affect our daily face-to-face interactions, but it bleeds over into online interactions. We begin to develop the inauthentic Twitter and Facebook John or Nancy, which is a more courageous version of the In-Real-Life John or Nancy.
The lack of authenticity boils down to insecurity, people or so insecure with who they are that they begin to mimic the likeness of others or put on a facade altogether. What is meant to come off as different, cool, real or strong comes across as “Jake The Fake.” People can see inauthenticity from a mile away, a tweet away or a status update away… so go ahead and get real with yourself and others.
Authenticity Is A Lost Art, Even On Twitter & Facebook! Honestly it takes more work to be inauthentic than it does to simply Be Yourself. “Do You! It’s A Statement Not A Question!”
Here are a few simple ways to find The Art Of Authenticity:
- Be the same person at home, work, church, online… although the context may change the person shouldn’t.
- Find your voice, not the voice you want but the voice you have. The voice you want may develop over time, but not until you find the voice that you already have.
- Ask the people closes to you, if they notice signs or areas of inauthenticity. Ask them to hold you accountable to improving in this area.
- Stop asking “How can I be like so and so?” and instead ask “What qualities about so and so can be adapted to who I am.”
- Make daily steps toward finding The Lost Art Of Authenticity and people may give you the compliment, “I Like Your Style!”
Be your authentic self. Your authentic self is who you are when you have no fear of judgment, or before the world starts pushing you around and telling you who you’re supposed to be. Your fictional self is who you are when you have a social mask on to please everyone else. Give yourself permission to be your authentic self. ~Dr. Phil
Do you find Authenticity To Be A Lost Art? Share your thoughts!