As many of you know I have a 5th grade son who is matriculating to middle school. We have already talked about the “Birds & The Bees” this year and agreed to keep an open dialogue and have progressive discussions. Our agreement is that he can ask me anything and I will give him a straight answer. We also agreed that these discussions are between he and I… we decided to leave mom out of the mix.
This week he came home with a little book that his parents were supposed to go through with him. The book is called “Always Changing & Growing: Boys Guide.” Because of our agreement he told his mom that he couldn’t talk to her about the book and he has to talk to his dad. The first item on the discussion agenda was, “How and when is sperm developed?”
I thought I would simply share the glossary of terms that are in the book: Note- The (sarcasm) below is just for chuckles for the BigIsTheNewSmall readers, my son and I talk very candid about this stuff.
- Apocrine glands– Sweat glands under arms and genitals. (Deodorant & soap are important to a 6th grader).
- Circumcision– Medical or religious procedure by in which the Dr. or Clergy cuts away the foreskin from the penis. (I’m considered Clergy & I’m not cutting any foreskin).
- Eccrine glands- Sweat glands all over body (Again soap is important).
- Ejaculation– Forceful release of semen from the penis. (I’m gonna try to convince him they are talking about concrete or sement).
- Erection- Hardening of the penis (Again, this will have something to do with concrete or sement setting up and getting hard).
- Foreskin- The fold of skin that covers the end of the penis. (Uhh, I got nothing for this one).
- Penis– Male reproductive organ. (This is an instrument you play, kinda like a piano.).
- Semen- A sticky fluid that contains sperm and various other secretions. (Again this is the consistency of concrete and sement before it hardens).
- Sperm– The male reproductive cell. (It’s like a little swimming fish that has races with other swimming fish, you were once one of these swimming fish and you were fast enough to win the race).
- Testicles- The male reproductive glands. (Balls is the most simple answer).
- Wet dream- The ejaculation of semen out of the penis during sleep. (A wet dream is when you pee on yourself).
These are not all of the terms discussed in the book and found in the glossary; however this is the majority of them. Although I tried to make light of the situation/terminology, I understand and embrace the seriousness of these types of discussion. My son and I have an amazing relationship and our initial conversation about the Birds and The Bees about 6 months ago was exceptional. I used my 7 Methods To Talk To My Son About Sex.
What are your thoughts about these terms and the whole process of talking to your kids about sex and development. When is it too early? Share your thoughts!