Silence The Critics!

Criticism is a one of those words that seems to cut most people like a knife.  Although the knife doesn’t seem as sharp when we put the word “constructive” in front of the word criticism; none-the-less the word still seems to pierce.

When I was growing up my mom would always tell me: “Son, you can’t control or worry about what people say… you can only control what you say and what you do.”  Later on in life, as a young leader I had a mentor that would always say “If you’re doing something worthy of people taking shots at you… they will.  I would much rather have a leader that people don’t always understand and who are occasionally criticized, than a “leader” that no one ever talks about.”   I’ve heard my pastor say something like “If you want to find the leader, look for the one with the arrow in their back!”

Don’t get me wrong, sometimes criticism is necessary.  It’s important to have the people closest to you speak candidly into your life and seek wise counsel from those who will shoot you straight.  It’s important to view criticism as neutral… “It Is What It Is!”  This neutral mindset allows you to be comfortable with, “Eating The Meat and Spitting Out The Bones!”  If you don’t want to be criticized, I have some advice for you: Say Nothing, Do Nothing & Be Nothing! If you want to silence the critics, be yourself and do the right thing.

“It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

I don’t ever want to find myself in the place with those “Cold and Timid Souls.”

Silence The Critics!

Share Your Thoughts?

  • http://www.godsabsolutelove.com patriciazell

    I have one person who I depend on for critiques–God. He looks beneath the surface of what I do to the motivation of what I do. He helps me to sift the criticisms of other people and to know what is important and what is not. And, He helps me to love my neighbors which helps me move my focus on being a blessing to them rather than being upset or depressed with criticisms of my failings (everyone has them). And, when I’m not upset or depressed, I find it much easier to deal with those failings.

    • Scott Williams

      Well said… “beneath the surface”

  • http://www.marcmillan.com Marc Millan

    It amazes me how people can take “freedom of speech” to new levels every time they want to criticize others. It’s pretty simple really. If you have something negative to say, write it in the sand near the edge of the water, so the the waves can wash it away, other than that, you can help by sharing ideas, encouragement and build people up. Truth be told, build people UP.
    Stay positive.
    M_

    • Scott Williams

      Keep it positive… Maybe that should be a new term, Positive Criticism, instead of constructive.

  • http://www.dunamischarlotte.org Abdullah Birdsong

    People are used by God to help us refine our perceptions and ideas. Sometimes tough love IS the best love. Proverbs 10: 8 says, “The wise are glad to be instructed, but babbling fools fall flat on their faces.”

    Constructive criticism builds us towards God’s destiny for our lives. Uninformed criticism only attempts to destroy what God has ordained for our lives. Stay well in Jesus!

    • Scott Williams

      babbling fools! lol

  • Ken Bussell

    I have often found critics to be some of the most important voices in my life. They are often like prophets. Our tendency is to kill prophets. History bears this out. Sometimes we kill them metaphorically, especially leaders who sideline the “negative” voices around them. We favor optimists and dreamers over pessimists and realists

  • Ken Bussell

    Yet we need both in our lives to balance us. Sorry I published before I was finished! Nice article.

    • Scott Williams

      Absolutely, both are necessary!

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