Criticism: “It Is What It Is!”

Criticism is a one of those words that seems to cut most people like a knife.  Although the knife doesn’t seem as sharp when we put the word “constructive” in front of the word criticism; none-the-less the word still seems to pierce.

When I was growing up my mom would always tell me: “Son, you can’t control or worry about what people say… you can only control what you say and what you do.”  Later on in life, as a young leader I had a mentor that would always say “If you’re doing something worthy of people taking shots at you… they will.  I would much rather have a leader that people don’t always understand and who are occasionally criticized, than a “leader” that no one ever talks about.”   I have heard my pastor say something like “If you want to find the leader, look for the one with the arrow in their back!”

I tend to view criticism as neutral… “It Is What It Is!” I prefer to “Eat The Meat and Spit Out The Bones!”  If you don’t want to be criticized, I have some advice for you: Say Nothing, Do Nothing & Be Nothing!

It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

I don’t ever want to find my place with those “Cold and Timid Souls.”

Criticism: “It Is What It Is!

What do you think?  Share your thoughts!

  • http://www.barbaraling.com Barbara Ling, Virtual Coach

    Beautiful post. The challenges many have, methinks, is the fear they embrace regarding being told there *is* room for change (valid or not).

    Getting past that and learning to embrace the possibilities while leaving the ego at the door – it’s precious indeed.

    • Scott Williams

      I like to say, “Fear is the prison where potential is confined.”

  • http://www.RonEdmondson.com Ron Edmondson

    Great post. I could have used it again yesterday…. I have thought a lot about this issue over the years, and I land pretty much where you do. I wrote this post last year about the issue:

    http://www.ronedmondson.com/2009/06/dealing-with-negativity-in-the-church.html

    I agree that if we are going to lead, we will bring our critics.

    Thanks Scott

    • Scott Williams

      I say bring em’ and don’t look back at em’

  • http://tomjamieson.wordpress.com Tom Jamieson

    Awesome post Scott! I needed this as I am weathering storms as we speak! Thanks for sharing!

    • Scott Williams

      Pray the storms subside or your umbrella is broadened.

  • http://Femimonehin.com Femi

    Great post Scott.
    I heard this said some time ago: “if you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen”.
    Keep on leading!

    • Scott Williams

      Thanks bro. Looking fwd. to sharing your contribution.

  • Jonathan Pearson

    This is something I’m struggling through right now. I’ve arrived exactly where you are. Thanks for laying it out!

    • Scott Williams

      Glad I could help… thx for the comment.

  • http://nw-aftergodsownheart@blogspot.com Naomi Whitaker

    This word came at just the right time for me, Pastor Scott! I’m in the middle of being criticized for quoting Christ when He said, “I am the Way, the Truth and the Life. No one comes to the Father except through me”. One of my “faithful” lifegroup members believes differently and has decided not to come any more. I am now loving her from a distance and praying. As I was feeling a bit guiltyb and asking the Lord if I had done something wrong, He said, “No, you did what was right. I’ll do the rest. She has become infected with toxic gangrene and is harmful to this body. She has now been cut off.” As sad as I am to have to let her go, I know that the Lord will be glorified in the end, whether in both our lives, or just one. He is the Almighty One who will not be mocked. I’m thankful for His mercy and grace and praying for Him to draw her back to Himself.

    • Scott Williams

      truth & grace, truth & grace… Thx for sharing. I pray that God continues to give you peace about your decision and crystal clear discernment about future ones.

  • http://twitter.com/dewayneneeley Dewayne Neeley

    Thanks for this post, Scott. This is quite relevant to me as I’ve dealt with strong voices from my own set of critics in recent weeks…and years if I look back on it now. I really like the Roosevelt quote. Thanks for sharing it, and yes, I might steal it. :)

  • http://thompsonland.tk Bryan Thompson

    Excellent post again, Scott.

    “If you don’t want to be criticized, I have some advice for you: Say Nothing, Do Nothing & Be Nothing!”

    Love, love, love this! Learning to grow thick skin is an essential part of leadership, though balancing this with an open mind to learn isn’t always easy. And I think we have to sometimes see past the face who is criticizing – if it is inherently negative. We all know those people who love to complain about everything – and church ministry leaves no shortage of these. Great thoughts, bro.

  • Colin Scott

    Criticism can often be Satan’s attempt to get you to react in the flesh and bring you into his domain where you can be easily defeated. And on the other hand this can be the confirmation that you are in the will of God.
    Too easy to run away when the attack comes.
    Resting in faith that God will make a way, and realising faith works by love and that love never fails, we can go on to victory.
    One thing I have learned over the years is that we need to pray for and support those in leadership, even when they do not share our vision. Make sure our vision is of God and includes the body of Christ. Being a loner will not work.

  • http://www.4roofcrashers.blogspot.com Bill McCready

    Great Post!! So much of life and especially ministry is about doing what others don’t want you to do, don’t think you should do, and don’t like it when you do. It is hard for folks (like me) who get into ministry to help others, having a bit of the ‘people pleaser’ in them, and then get beat up by critics. But lessons learned over the years have made me stronger. As Rick Warren said, “The most effective ministries are also the most criticized.” We’re in good company when we get slammed for doing the right thing.

    Keep up the good work, love the blog!!

  • Jeannette

    I too do not want to be cold & timid. I want to be wise & bold! This post encouraged me! It was just what I needed to hear at this point & time…

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