The Authenticity of Facebook and Twitter

One of the most important interpersonal skills is the ability to be authentic.  Authenticity is simply defined as —the quality or condition of being authentic or genuine. That seems like such a no-brainer and easy thing to do; however authenticity is more difficult to come by than not.

In order to have healthy, productive and legitimate interactions, individuals must learn how to become authentic.  Start by asking yourself questions like, “Who Am I Really?”  “Who Was I Created To Be?”  “Am I acting this way because I’ve been trained to or is this really me?”  Any of these type of questions will help individuals begin to be gut level honest with who they really are.  Until we truly know who we are and become comfortable with who we are, we will have a tendency to lack authenticity.

The lack of authenticity does not only affect our daily face-to-face interactions, but it bleeds over into online interactions.  We begin to develop the inauthentic Twitter and Facebook John or Nancy, which is a more courageous version of the In-Real-Life John or Nancy.

The lack of authenticity boils down to insecurity, people or so insecure with who they are that they begin to mimic the likeness of others or put on a facade altogether.  What is meant to come off as different, cool, real or strong comes across as “Jake The Fake.”   People can see inauthenticity from a mile away, a tweet away or a status update away… so go ahead and get real with yourself and others.

Authenticity Is A Lost Art, Even On Twitter & Facebook! Honestly it takes more work to be inauthentic than it does to simply Be Yourself.  “Do You! It’s A Statement Not A Question!”

Here are a few simple ways to find The Art Of Authenticity:

  • Be the same person at home, work, church, online… although the context may change the person shouldn’t.
  • Find your voice, not the voice you want but the voice you have.  The voice you want may develop over time, but not until you find the voice that you already have.
  • Ask the people closes to you, if they notice signs or areas of inauthenticity.  Ask them to hold you accountable to improving in this area.
  • Stop asking “How can I be like so and so?” and instead ask “What qualities about so and so can be adapted to who I was created to be.”
  • Make daily steps toward finding The Lost Art Of Authenticity and people may give you the compliment, “I Like Your Style!”

Be your authentic self. Your authentic self is who you are when you have no fear of judgment, or before the world starts pushing you around and telling you who you’re supposed to be. Your fictional self is who you are when you have a social mask on to please everyone else. Give yourself permission to be your authentic self.” ~Dr. Phil

Do you find Authenticity To Be A Lost Art?  Share your thoughts on Authenticity, especially as it relates to Facebook and Twitter.

  • It is a lost art. It’s so easy to be someone you are not online. I try to not say anything on FB or Twitter unless I would say it in person. Good post.

    • Scott Williams

      Well said… thx for the comment

  • Nice post Scott! I would have to agree that consistently being yourself is of the utmost importance. “Who am I?” has become the driving question of my life as I strive to achieve my truest potential.

    Thanks!

  • jimmy hankins

    Authenticity isn’t possible without humility. Humility isn’t possible without Self-esteem. Self-esteem isn’t possible without Forgiveness. Forgiveness isn’t possible without Mercy. Authenticity is just another way of saying Transparency. Transparency is only achieved by Obedience. Accountability is to the Spirit first. Accountability to the Spirit leads to the desire for Accountability in all things. Rather than “Who Am I Really?” I should ask myself “Who has God made me?” That’s really long winded. Let me tweet it for ya:Twitter: #Authenticiy @ScottWilliams
    I’m asking God Who Am I Really? (grin)

    • Mercy leads to Forgiveness leads to Self-Esteem leads to Humility leads to Authenticity, i like it!

  • Having people who will “call you out” is one of the missing pieces of authenticity. Without this we are liable to keep on going down a wrong path for years.

  • Good post. I try to always be genuine, real, and authentic no matter where I am or who I’m with – including online.

  • Ben

    Definitely found it to be refreshing to just “Do Me” in this online twitter/facebookverse. You are absolutely right in how it takes more work to be fake, and having to keep remembering which “you” you are trying to be.

  • Miguel Roan

    Nice article. Can i share this on my youth website?

  • It’s hard to be your real self both online and offline if you’re on online extrovert and an offline introvert. Meaning online you are real, can talk, etc but offline you are really shy and insecure. Also hard when you live with family who doesn’t understand what you’re all about. It’s hard to be the same person in all 3 areas, I try, but it doesn’t work real well.

  • ehag

    Right on brother. You almost have to do the read before submitting plan to ensure you r being real.

  • There is a great line from the movie Remember the Titans. Coach Boone tells Coach Yoast, “I may be a miserable cuss, but I am the same miserable cuss to everyone out there.” I loved that line. It stuck with me because that is how I want to be. Authentic. Real. No matter who is talking to me, or in which medium.

  • jimmy hankins

    The world is too complicated for self-imposed authenticity. Innocent until “proven” guilty doesn’t work in Christianity. I know you think it does, and it sounds great, but it’s less filling. Let me sum it up for all you smart-phone generation Christians in two to three words: Jail-broken iPhones. Let the compromising begin. (grin)

    • I wouldn’t equate jail-braking an iphone with sin…. let me tell you why. The process of jail-breaking is a process of overriding the factory defaults of your stock operating system to enable you to do more, to have the freedom to put the programs you yourself developed. I haven’t read the latest terms of service with iTunes (it’s like 56 pages!) so i’m not sure if you’re suggesting we should be honorable to our commitments we commit to- if that’s your point, i agree. However, i look at it like this, my father has a gift for mechanics, and he often overrides the factory defaults of the car to make it function more efficiently. For instance, the AC in my mother’s car was not working well, so my dad bypassed a power relay of some sort (my gift is computers, not cars) and made the AC work- this is the exact same principal as jail-breaking an iphone. My father’s method would not be endorsed or supported by Ford, but it creates the result he required of the goods he purchased.

      That being said, 100% of people i’ve read about, or known who’ve had a security breach with their personal data have had a jail-broken iphone. If you’re jail-breaking your iphone to get free access to tethering, that’s stealing, but if you’re jail-breaking it because you programmed a game or you want to use it in a way that is unendorsed by apple but isn’t harmful to others or malicious in nature, then that is your right… you own it and have the right to do with it as you would… many jail broken phones work better, like my mother’s car…

      I myself have not jail-broken an iphone ever; it voids your warranty, but more importantly it leaves you susceptible to hackers.

      Basically, you don’t have a concrete argument, you’ve implied jail-breaking iphones is sin, but have not stated why. It’s like saying wearing a hat in church is sin, many people believe it, but can’t give a reason why. I agree that MOST reasons to jail-break an iPhone are for a sinful desire- such as stealing data for tethering. However, if i’m painting a church and chipping paint off the ceiling… i’m wearing a hat to keep that paint out of my hair-actually, i just like hats and wear them anyway. (if i’m in a religious church, I will not wear a hat as a sign of respect to those who take offense to it- don’t lead your brother in to sin, or be a stumbling block to others)

      as mature Christians we nee to have concrete arguments and educated facts to reinforce said arguments. Else, we’re a bunch of ignorant spiritualist making spiritual accusations with no authority. (Crusaders?) God has given us science, and good investigative practices not to disprove faith, but to reaffirm it. Use it.

      That all being said, did you have a reason in mind as to why jail-breaking an iPhone is sin? I don’t disagree with you, but would like to know why such a bold statement was just thrown out there. “Adultery is sin,” works, because the word adultery is defined by an extramarital relationship, but ‘jail-breaking’ is a term that simply means “freeing your iPhone from the limitations put on it by its manufacturer.” Finally, let me reiterate that i am personally opposed to it because it’s unwise, but not a sin…

      • jimmy hankins

        @Ryan Hollingsworth: You are correct, unlocking and jail-breaking are not illegal, at least after the service contract expires. Jail-breaking and adultery can also be put into another category; Not the manufacturer’s intended use. (grin)
        My point is to question the authenticity of doing so. It’s in the intent, not the action. But the action exposes the intent. “Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose.”

      • jimmy hankins

        @Ryan Hollingsworth: I never accuse Christians of sinning. Distraction merely makes you ineffective.

  • jimmy hankins

    “You almost have to do the read before submitting plan to ensure you r being real.”

    ehag…I’m in awe! (grin)

  • jimmy hankins

    Wow. I can’t seem to leave this one alone. 6 comments and I sound like a jerk in all of them. One last try. Authenticity is what you want to be. Transparency is what you are? What others see? I give up. (grin)

  • GREAT Article!

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