5 Ways Leaders Destroy Their Team

Often times with leadership we hear the warm and fuzzies or the great success stories. There are so many great books and tools at the disposal of leaders that growth and competency should be inevitable.  The challenge with that theory is it’s rendered “not always true” because of the simple fact that leadership deals with human beings.  Anytime you are dealing with people things are never that simplistic.

A key understanding to leadership placement and roles is this: people hire people, who hire people, who hire people. Somewhere within those three generations, there are people placed in roles of leadership that they are not capable of.  In my tenure working as a Deputy Prison Warden, before being promoted to Warden, I worked for a leader that definitely should not have been in her role.  She literally destroyed her staff and destroyed her team.  Not only did she destroy them, she didn’t have the self-awareness to make the necessary adjustments.

Unfortunately the “Leadership Destroyers” were not isolated to my experience, if you live long enough and work for enough people, there is a good chance that you will work for one of these destroyers.  To help identify how these leaders or managers destroy their teams, I have identified 5 ways.

5 Ways Leaders Destroy Their Teams

  • 1. My Way Or The Highway (MWOH):  Everyone has an opinion and often times people have thoughts, ideas and suggestions that can be helpful to those that are in charge.  MWOH is fueled by the insecurity of the Leadership Destroyer.  MWOH can create an environment of control, but not an environment of healthy success.  Listen to your team, involve your team, learn from your team and embrace the reality that the collective sum is much better than the Big-Headed MWOH Leader.
  • 2. All About The Numbers: The numbers do matter, the bottom line is important and if it doesn’t make dolla$ it doesn’t make sense.  In business, ministry or non-profit work, it’s important to measure things as it’s a great barometer for success.  Where numbers become a problem is when the Leadership Destroyer focuses on the numbers, bottom line and measurables so much that they forget about their team of people who are making those numbers happen.  They lose sight of the “how” because they are so focused on the “what.”  Number matter, but people matter more.  Focus on creating a healthy team and healthy numbers will be a natural bi-product.
  • 3. Talk But Don’t Listen: No one can get a word in or have an opinion because the Leadership Destroyer is always talking.  Not only are they always talking, they never listen. If people are not heard, they will cease to say the things that matter.  Shh (be quiet) Listen!
  • 4. Change Things For The Sake Of Changing Things: Change is good and sometimes necessary to create forward momentum.  The Leadership Destroyer takes this to another level by changing things just to let you know that they’re the boss.  They are unwilling to receive feedback or go back to what worked, even if their change isn’t working.  I heard a great thought from OSU Football Coach Mike Gundy from his press conference this week.  OSU is ranked #2 and they are rolling like a well-oiled machine.  Mike Gundy said, (paraphrasing) “I try to change things up a bit, just to justify my existence.  My team will come to me and say I think we need to stick to XYZ and this is why.  Often times what they are saying makes perfect sense and I change it back.” It’s important to survey the impact, timing and necessity of change.
  • 5. They Just Don’t Care:  The quickest way to destroy a team is to not care about the players on the team.  Team members know the difference between the fake stuff and the genuine care and concern for the individual players and the collective team.  Leadership Destroyers care more about their title, role, corner office and the fact that they have arrived than they do their team.  One of the things that the inmates used to say when I was a Warden in regards to leadership and life is this, “It’s All About Missouri!”  In other words, Missouri is the Show-Me State.  I’ll close with the words of John Maxwell, “People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.”
What Do You Think?  Share your thoughts and experiences with either of these 5 Ways.
  • Christopher E. Swims

    Really good stuff!

    • Scott Williams

      Thx bro.

  • KIM BARNETT

    IT REALLY IS…I JUST SHARED THIS ON FB….SOME REALLY GOOD STUFF…..

    • Scott Williams

      Thanks Kim

  • Jonn McDaniel

    Scott, we must know the same “Leadership Destroyer”! You nailed him so well I thought you were going to say, “and he drives a _____ car and lives on _____ street.” Well said. I could add one, too. LDs rarely own a mistake. They are unwilling to admit they’ve done wrong and will argue effectively why/how something negative is someone else’s fault.

    • Scott Williams

      Absolutely… LOL, I think we both do know some of the same leadership destroyers and they come in all shapes, sizes and disguises. I listed that on my 12 signs they are not a good leader.

  • Mel

    Sounds like someone my husband worked for when he was in ministry. That stuff can definitely leave a huge hurt behind! I’m grateful that time is behind us and we both learned a lot.

    • Scott Williams

      I totally agree about the learning experience… Glad u r on the other side as well

  • http://www.twitter.com/nslivingston NSLivingston

    AZ
    “Killed it. Awesome post bro!

    • Scott Williams

      Thx for the kind words… especially since you used the word “killed” in a post about destroying. :)

      • http://www.twitter.com/nslivingston NSLivingston

        #punintended ;)

  • Donna

    Great article – thanks! I love “It’s all about Missouri.” I do leadership consulting and will definitely be using that one. Those inmates were incredibly creative and articulate.

  • Scott Williams

    Yes they were, taught me more about leadership and studying people than my Master’s degree program.

  • http://www.xmperformance.com Ross Paterson

    Scott, great insights. I cut my leadership teeth in the military and have since transitioned through corporate, non-profit and small business leadership. Students and practitioners of leadership can learn as much from the bad ones as the good ones. The “Don’t Care” is usually a cornerstone for the other destroyers. Bad experiences with direct supervisors/bosses is the number 1 reason people quit their jobs.

    • Scott Williams

      You are exactly right… people don’t quite their company, they quit their boss.

  • Michael Frausto

    John, your addition is very true. Unfortunately blame is a zero sum game and someone ends up having to take the hit for it. It then reflects on the job performance of the one taking the hit.

    • Jonn McDaniel

      Agreed. The blame game causes an incomplete view of those who have differing opinions from the LD and usually those people don’t stay around very long (either because they are smart enough to get out or they are asked to leave since they are constantly seen as the “cause” of numerous issues.) The sad thing then is that there is a culture created where people are not allowed to deal with real issues and therefore becomes a CYA culture within the staff, or the staff has to function outside the LD to accomplish their goals. But, the key is within what Scott said, “Not only did she destroy them, she didn’t have the self-awareness to make the necessary adjustments.” If the LD can become self-aware, then maybe there can be healing, authenticity and even a spark of hope…

      • Scott Williams

        Very Very well said, thanks for your perspective. Self-Awareness is crucial!

  • Michael Frausto

    Thanks for an excellent article. I suppose what bothers me the most is when after having to work under such a “leader” for so long a time and being marginalized, the tendency that I have seen, is that in order to survive the team member becomes more like the leader. Help us.

    • Scott Williams

      Bingo!

  • http://livinginthelead.com Dale

    I’m especially drawn to #2 because people drive the numbers, but you have to approach them separately: manage processes, lead people. If you lead your people well, they will execute well = stronger numbers!

    You’re spot on! Great list.

    • Scott Williams

      Thanks for the comment Dale… Please top back by

  • Henry Amador

    Great blog bro!!

    • Scott Williams

      Thx for the kind words & thanks for the comment

  • http://danblackonleadership.info/ Dan Black

    These are some great points. I also have seen never encouraging or uplifting your team be destructive.

    • Scott Williams

      :)

  • http://www.jadecadelina.com Mr. Jade Cadelina

    Scott, Thank you for posting this. I’ve experience all 5 types specially number #1. Innovation skeptics are the road blocks to the next big game changer. You can’t innovate and win when a company has these types of leaders.

    • Scott Williams

      Well said… Putting up roadblocks is definitely a way to destroy creativity & innovation

  • anonymous

    Not all Boss SUCKS but most of them does. If you raise your hand for making things right, you are highlighted and the bad time starts for you. I totally agree with the point by Michael Frausto “It then reflects on the job performance of the one taking the hit”.

    Not only these SUCKERS and LOOSER kill their team but also destroy the personal life of victims, as I am one of such victims. I don’t want to say more but just HELL TO YOU SUCKERS….

    • Scott Williams

      Wow… thanks for your candor, it’s important to learn from both the good and not so good leaders.

  • http://elevationlife.com Bryan Thompson

    “Numbers matter, but people matter more.” – This is perhaps the biggest dealbreaker for a lot of teams I’ve known. If most managers could get that, they’d go from “manager” to “leader.”

    • ScottWilliams

      ——> Yes

  • http://www.tidbitsoftorah.blogspot.com ZPasternak

    You Have Been Warned
    The prophet has already warned us that we should be careful not to think that God has any form or likeness, saying: “Watch yourselves most carefully, since you saw no image” (Devarim 4:15); “But you saw no image – there was only a voice” (ibid. 4:12). “Watch yourselves…..carefully” means: be careful – in your thinking and imagination – not to represent the Creator by any shape, nor to conceive of Him in any image or likeness, for your eyes beheld neither image nor form when He spoke to you, as it says: “To whom, then, will you liken the Almighty? What likeness will you compare to Him?” (Yeshayahu 40:18); “To whom, then, will you liken Me, that I should compare to?’ says the Holy One” (ibid. 40:25); For who in the skies can be compared to God? Who is like God among the heavenly beings?” (Tehillim 89:7); “There is none like You among the gods, HaShem, nor are there works like Yours” (ibid. 86:8); and there are many similar passages. (source pg. 133 Duties of the heart)

    The Divine attributes of action are those that are ascribed to the Creator as a result of His actions. It is possible that in attributing these qualities to Him, He is made an associate of some of His creatures [to whom they are also attributed]. Nevertheless, we are permitted to ascribe these qualities to Him, because of our urgent need to know Him and recognize His existence, so that we may assume His service. We find extensive use of this kind of Divine attribute in the Torah and the books of the prophets, as well as in the praises offered by the prophets and the pious. Such attributes are used in two ways:

    1) Attributes are ascribed which indicate image and bodily form, as in the following examples for Scripture: “And God created man in His image, in the image of God He created him” (Bereshis 1:27); for in God’s image did He make man” (ibid. 9:6); “By the mouth of God” (Bamidbar 9:18); “My hands alone stretched out the heavens” (Yeshayahu 45:12); “in God’s ears” (Bemidbar 11:1); “and under His feet” (Shemos 24:10); “O arm of God!” (Yeshayahu 51:9); who has not sworn falsely by My Name” (Tehillim 24:4); “in the eys of God” (Bereshis 6:8); “and God said in His heart” (ibid. 8:21) and there are other similar attributions of bodily organs to God.

    2) Attributes are ascribed to God which indicate movements and bodily actions, as it says: “God smelled [the pleasing fragrance]” (ibid. 8:21); “God saw…regretted…and He was saddened at heart” (ibid. 6:5-6); “God came down” (ibid. 11:5); “God remembered” (ibid. 8:1); “God heard” (Bemidbar 11:1); Then God awoke as one that had slept” (Tehillim 78:65); and there are many other similar attributes to Him of human actions.

    The foolish and ignorant person will conceive of the Creator, may He be exalted, according to the literal sense of the Scriptural phrase.

  • http://www.vdcoleman.wordpress.com V.D. Coleman

    Exactly…….couldnt have said it…thought it…broke it down and decreed it any better…

    Sad thing is other leaders dont want to hear, let alone acknowledge ALL these things…

    • ScottWilliams

      It’s important to have people around you that will point these things out

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  • Thejasonrobison

    Man, I’ve seen both sides of this issue. Great post Scott. I’m going to share this post with my current boss.

    • ScottWilliams

      Me to :)

  • Bridgettereed

    Very well said. Now if I can teach my 16 year old.

    • ScottWilliams

      LOL

  • Cameron Davis

    One big mistake I see all the time is assuming you have to make it all happen. Taking the “stress” role but in reality your hands aren’t big enough to hold all of Gods incredible plan together @CamDpreacher

  • http://justforthesportofit.wordpress.com/ Meagan Frank

    Fantastic and poignant post. Your description of the leadership destroyer is beyond accurate. I wish I didn’t think you were right…but you are.  It is good to pay attention to what tears down good teams….as well as what builds them up.  Thanks for the food for thought!  MMF

  • http://www.facebook.com/brendanmarkhall Brendan Hall

    gr8 stuff scott. Leadership is a big responsibility and it should not be taken on without careful thought to the impact that “the leader” is having on the people around them. 

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