Lady Wisdom Gives a Thanksgiving Dinner Party
Lady Wisdom has built and furnished her home; it’s supported by seven hewn timbers. The banquet meal is ready to be served: lamb roasted, wine poured out, table set with silver and flowers. Having dismissed her serving maids, Lady Wisdom goes to town, stands in a prominent place, and invites everyone within sound of her voice: “Are you confused about life, don’t know what’s going on? Come with me, oh come, have dinner with me! I’ve prepared a wonderful spread-fresh-baked bread, roast lamb, carefully selected wines. Leave your impoverished confusion and live! Walk up the street to a life with meaning.”
If you reason with an arrogant cynic, you’ll get slapped in the face; confront bad behavior and get a kick in the shins. So don’t waste your time on a scoffer; all you’ll get for your pains is abuse. But if you correct those who care about life, that’s different-they’ll love you for it! Save your breath for the wise-they’ll be wiser for it; tell good people what you know-they’ll profit from it. Skilled living gets its start in the Fear-of-God, insight into life from knowing a Holy God. It’s through me, Lady Wisdom, that your life deepens, and the years of your life ripen. Live wisely and wisdom will permeate your life; mock life and life will mock you… Proverbs 9:1-12 MSG
Humility is such a great virtue; it’s also one of the virtues that people will placate to try and claim their chunk of the humble pie. You know what I’m talking about, the people that walk around and say, “I’m just humble!” Give me a break; if you’re humble you’re humble, you don’t have to let everyone know. Humility is not something that you do or say, it’s the essence of who you are.
“True humility” is distinctly different from “False Humility.” True humility is about recognizing that all good and perfect gifts, talents and successes come from God. It’s about submitting to God and the earthly authority that God may place over you. True Humility happily embraces the successes, abilities and talents of others — particularly those that may surpass their own abilities. It’s about celebrating God’s blessings for yourself and others.
False Humility is about deprecating one’s own sanctity, successes, gifts, talents, and accomplishments for the sake of receiving praise or flattery from other people. You will see this play out when someone has an amazing gift from God and when people compliment them on those gifts they respond with something like, “Ohh no, I’m not any good… that was horrible… there are so many people that are better than I am etc.” Please STOP With The False Humility! A humble response is simply, “Thank You!” You thank them for their compliment and you thank God for the gifts that He has given you.
When you are truly thankful for the gifts that God has given you, understand that your confidence comes from God and honestly understand that it’s not about you… humility will come naturally. Please don’t confuse humility with the lack of confidence. The true reality is that humility and the confidence that “I can do all things through Christ” work in perfect tension.
Please STOP With The False Humility!
There are many different types of leaders out there. Many are leaders in title and position only, as their style and process is anything but leadership. One of those leader/position types is something I refer to as “The Justifying Leader.”
Justify [juhs-tuh-fahy] verb jus·ti·fied, jus·ti·fy·ing: to show (an act, claim, statement, etc.) to be just or right. to defend or uphold as warranted or well-grounded: to declare innocent or guiltless; absolve; acquit. to show a satisfactory reason or excuse for something done.
The Justifying Leader tends to justify many aspects of their
leadership lack of leadership.
7 Signs You May Be Working For A Justifying Leader
- 1. They fire twice as many people as they grow and develop.
- 2. They always have excuses for failures, challenges, shortcomings… and they rarely offer solutions for success.
- 3. They will quickly deflect, blame and point fingers and they rarely look in the mirror admit they are wrong and embrace the fact that everything rises and falls with their leadership.
- 4. They are quick to defend team members who have worn out their welcome to defend.
- 5. They justify the culture of turnover with the thought process that those leaving, “Didn’t have what it takes and they couldn’t hang.”
- 6. They consistently overlook negative and inappropriate behavior instead of confronting it head on.
- 7. They act totally different and get their “Chameleon” on when the big bosses show up. After all this would help them to look guiltless, good, innocent, awesome, warranted… (see definition above)
These are just some signs that you may be working for a Justifying leader, the sad thing is that Justifying Leader mays just be you.
Success and great things come to those who expect it and those who step out and make it happen. The key to success is living from the spirit of expectancy. Do you expect great things to happen? Do you expect to succeed? Do you expect to win? Starting from a position of “Absolutely I do!” is critical to success.
Michael Jordan expected to win, make big shots and win multiple championships. LeBron James expected himself to be a superstar fresh out of high school. Steve Jobs expected Apple to be an iconic brand that would change the face of technology. The founders of Twitter expected the information machine known as Twitter to one day be a big deal and a publicly traded juggernaut. Billy Graham expected to take his crusades and the Gospel message around the world. Rick Warren expected Purpose Driven Life to give people a life of purpose. Despite the ups and downs, Tim Tebow expects great things and expects to be a great example.
Each and every success story has a tipping point where the person, organization or team expected great things to happen. That doesn’t mean they didn’t have to work hard, nor does it mean they expected the ultimate degree of success; however they simply learned to expect great things.
If we don’t expect great things to happen, there is a good chance they won’t, as we will always find ways to step into the world of the negative self-fulfilling prophecy. Conversely, if we learn to expect great things, we will find great things around the corner and will remain on the road of success. Remember success is a journey, not a destination.
Think It – See It – Believe It – Expect It…
The older I get the more I’m learning what a spirit of expectancy is all about. I’m understanding the importance of expecting great things from a Great God, I’m also understanding the importance of doing great things for a Great God.
Learn To Expect Great Things!