Archive - May, 2014

Everything Doesn’t Require A Response

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I see people get themselves in trouble more times than not by responding to and addressing things that don’t require a response. Not only do most things not require a response, often times they don’t even deserve a response.

Okay, so your naysayers have something negative to say about you, sometimes your best response is simply no response. You may find yourself in a back and forth argument, you can actually choose not be be the forth in the back and forth conversation; therefore the argument ceases.

In the world of social media and the day and age of everyone constantly trying to prove themselves, you are probably wasting way to much time, energy and breath on things that don’t deserve either of the three.

There is a time to speak and at time to listen. The less you respond to things that don’t deserve a response, the more peaceful your life will be.

Everything Doesn’t Require A Response.

15 Things You Need To Stop Doing… Right Now!

stop66We live in a world of to-do lists, goals and New Years Resolutions. Everyone is looking forward to starting something, going to the gym, starting the conversation, starting the journey… Instead of focusing so much energy and attention on what you need to start, you should try a different approach. How about focusing on the things you need to stop and awesome life results will be the natural by-product.

Try This! (In no particular order)

15 Things You Need To Stop Doing… Right Now!

  • 1. Stop placing your job above your family.
  • 2. Stop doubting yourself.
  • 3. Stop believing the lies.
  • 4. Stop settling for second best.
  • 5. Stop procrastinating.
  • 6. Stop making excuses.
  • 7. Stop talking so much.
  • 8. Stop trying to please everyone.
  • 9. Stop comparing yourself to others.
  • 10. Stop standing paralyzed in awe of the success of others.
  • 11. Stop tippy-toeing on that line of sin.
  • 12. Stop being consumed with what other people think.
  • 13 Stop worrying about things that really don’t matter.
  • 14. Stop Going, Going, Going without Resting, Resting, Resting.
  • 15. Stop calling God a liar… He’s says “You Can” stop saying you can’t.

Don’t Shortcut The Process

processSometimes people try to shortcut the process. You may be thinking, What’s the process? Well the process is different depending on the situation. The process for a leader may be learning, putting in hard work, failing and paying your dues.

When you read phrases like “paying your dues” it may cause you to think the process must always be a ling and drawn out deal. Please don’t confuse the process for a particular amount of time, as the process varies from situation to situation.

There are some very young and capable King David type of leaders who God has provided what may be perceived as a shortcut to their advancement and promotion process. If you only see the shortcut of David becoming a young King then you will miss the hard work, faithfulness, leadership and life experience that came from shepherding sheep. Not to mention the faith to face giants that came along with that shepherd boy process.

Whatever your situation is, respect the process.

If you had a setback, a moral failure, a grave mishap that you brought on yourself…. respect the rehabilitation and restoration process. Don’t Shortcut The Process.

If you are trying to regain the trust of someone whose trust you lost, be patient and Don’t Shortcut The Process.

If you are wanting that promotion and you’ve only been on your current job for 2 weeks, Don’t Shortcut The Process.

When you see other people advancing, growing and being promoted and getting opportunities around you and you don’t understand why — It’s wise to self-evaluate, but Don’t Shortcut The Process.

Please understand that 80% of the process is what you think and perceive and 20% is how you act and respond. (re-read that sentence)

When looking at the journey of success there is a fine line and awesome tension between “Don’t Shortcut The Process and Make It Happen Now.” Embrace that tension and Don’t Shortcut The Process.

What Leaders and Organizations Can Learn From The Fall Of Blackberry and The Rise Of Apple

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I have a friend who is somewhat of a BlackBerry fan. In his BlackBerry fandom he forwarded me the above tweet yesterday from the WallStreet Journal. Let me paraphrase what it says, “5 years ago BlackBerry accounted for half of the U.S. smartphones and today they account for none.”

I remember owning many different models of the BlackBerry with the old school track mouse roller ball thing. BlackBerry held onto the roller ball and the expensive data plans because they had an exclusive business crowd that wasn’t going to leave them no matter what. Well the iPhone had something to say about that and eventually the business folks left and BlackBerry is bankrupt, extinct and has some some really smart people in a room trying to come up with a BlackBerry rebound/comeback strategy.

I’m an Apple fan and although it’s hard for me to say, but if the Post Steve Jobs Apple company doesn’t adjust rapidly, they will find themselves in the same situation. I know the Apple fans are probably saying “no-way,” well that’s what my BlackBerry buddy who sent me the above tweet said to me about 5 years ago.

Here is the takeaway for organizations and leaders: Change, grow, adjust, stay hungry, surround yourself with the best, find fresh eyes, realize that you are not invincible, understand that success overshadows weaknesses, reinvent yourself when necessary and never ever ever take your customers and success for granted and stay ahead of the curve (BlackBerry Pun Intended).

PS: I guess the same thing can be said about your family and marriage… Never take either of them for granted.

How To Effectively Handle Criticism

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Criticism is a one of those words that seems to cut most people like a knife.  Although the knife doesn’t seem as sharp when we put the word “constructive” in front of the word criticism; none-the-less the word still seems to pierce.

When I was growing up my mom would always tell me: “Son, you can’t control or worry about what people say… you can only control what you say and what you do.” Later on in life, as a young leader I had a mentor that would always say “If you’re doing something worthy of people taking shots at you… they will. I would much rather have a leader that people don’t always understand and who are occasionally criticized, than a “leader” that no one ever talks about.”  I’ve heard one of my old pastors say something like, “If you want to find the leader, look for the one with the arrow in their back!”

I tend to view criticism as neutral. As a matter of fact I view it from the perspective of the phrase that no one likes to say or hear and that is this: “It Is What It Is!” I prefer to “Eat The Meat and Spit Out The Bones!” When you are chewing on the meat of life, you might find some pieces that are not cooked to you’re liking, tough, salty and that simply don’t taste right. Although they are not cooked to your liking, it may be beneficial to go ahead and consume them. It’s called life lessons and learning experiences. Again, “Eat The Meat and Spit Out The Bones!”

If you don’t want to be criticized, I have some advice for you: Say Nothing, Do Nothing & Be Nothing!

It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

I don’t ever want to find my place with those “Cold and Timid Souls.”

Criticism: “It Is What It Is!”

Kevin Durant NBA MVP Acceptance Speech – The Best Acceptance Speech In The History Of The Award

By far the best acceptance speech in the history of the MVP Award. Kevin Durant started by thanking God, he displayed humility, he never focused on himself, he gave personal credit to every single team member and coach, he reflected on the past, he talked about hard work and sacrifice, he shared stories, he made a special note to talk about Westbrook, he gave his mother the credit due and he ended with thanking God last. God is Alpha and Omega.

As a proud member of the Oklahoma City community and Oklahoma City family, I’m glad Kevin Durant is a part of our framily plan. Seriously this guy is a great example and as he stated, “He uses basketball as a platform to inspire others.”

This video is a must watch for anyone that leads, has children, has a desire to succeed or if you just need to cry some tears of joy.

Why Insecure Leaders Need To Wear Glasses

blindInsecure leaders have a hard time seeing the best in other because their eyes are covered by their own insecurities. Insecure leaders have difficulty seeing the value of taking responsibility and ownership for failures because their eyes are covered by their own insecurities. Insecure leaders will never see or realize their own potential because they are blinded by their own insecurities.

Insecure leaders need to put on the glasses of security and confidence that can only truly be found in Jesus.

Find Jesus, Find Confidence, Find Security and See Again.

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