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Pastors, Leaders, People… Stop Having Affairs!

It truly breaks my heart every time that I hear about people having affairs; especially those who have been entrusted with a leadership role.  It doesn’t matter whether we are talking about the President, Politicians, Teachers, Pastors, Coaches, Worship Leaders, Sports Superstars…  These individuals who have been blessed and entrusted with the responsibility of leadership influence should hold that influence tightly, lightly and responsibly all at the same time.

Honestly, as a pastor this selfish cheating mess is probably one of the most frustrating/irritating areas to counsel people through; especially when the individuals don’t seem to understand the impact of their selfish actions. Not only do they not realize the impact, but they would have probably continued if they hadn’t gotten caught. This tragedy can also be one of the most rewarding areas to celebrate/praise on the other side, through total repentance and legitimate restoration.

I know people may say Scott you are naive and it can happen to anybody, but I say this with all the humility I can muster up “IT DOESN’T HAVE TO HAPPEN TO ANYBODY!” I read through 1 Corinthians 6 again today and I don’t care what version I read, The Message, New Century or NIV, they all communicated the same thing.  Run, Flee, Your Body Is A Temple, You Were Bought By God For a Price. As Christ Followers and especially as Christian Leaders; we don’t get to pick and choose how we act. We are held to a higher standard and if we can really do all things through Christ who gives us strength; I have to believe that “all things” encompasses honoring our covenant vows before God and to our spouse.

None of us are perfect, we all sin, we all fall short, we all know right from wrong and I would argue that even a non-believer understands that they are not supposed to cheat on their spouse. Marriage is serious, Treat It As Such!

A word to Pastors, Leaders or anyone else who is cheating, flirting or going down that road: Stop, Flee, Run and Pray.  Proverbs 5:5 talks about the adulteress woman this way, “She’s dancing down the primrose path to Death; she’s headed straight for Hell and taking you with her.” So many end up on the primrose path and don;t even realize how they got there. You can’t get there, if you don’t go near there.

Satan doesn’t have any power over you, only the power to deceive.  If you’re choosing to go down this road of deception, ultimately Satan is Playing you like a drum and Pimpin’ you like a prostitute!

Pastors, Leaders, People…  Stop Having Affairs!  Thank You!

Pastors, Players, Pimps… Stop Cheating!

affairI am so sick and tired of hearing about people having affairs; especially those who have been entrusted with a leadership role.  It doesn’t matter whether we are talking about the President, Politicians, Teachers, Pastors, Coaches…  These individuals who have been blessed with the responsibility of leadership influence; should hold that influence tightly, lightly and responsibly all at the same time.

I’m not going to get into the details of the recent pastor who has fallen into this selfish cheating trap, because his name really doesn’t matter.  He is just one of many whom have fallen and one who happened to have a social media influence; therefore instantly his story was spread like a viral wildfire.  I have some blogging friends who have blogged about it and you can read their perspectives here, here , here and here.

Honestly this selfish cheating mess is probably one of the most frustrating/irritating areas to counsel people through; especially when they just don’t get the impact of their selfish actions.  Not only do they not realize the impact, but they would have probably continued if they hadn’t got caught.  This tragedy can also be one of the most rewarding areas to celebrate/praise on the other side and through legitimate restoration.

I know people may say Scott you are naive and it can happen to anybody… but I say this with all the humility I can muster up “IT DOESN’T HAVE TO HAPPEN TO ANYBODY!”  I read through 1 Corinthians 6 again today and I don’t care what version I read, The Message, New Century, NIV… they all communicated the same thing.  Run, Flee, Your Body Is A Temple, You Were Bought By God For a Price…  As Christ Followers and especially as Christian Leaders; we don’t get to pick and choose how we act.  We are held to a higher standard and if we can really do all things through Christ who gives us strength; I have to believe that “all things” encompasses honoring our covenant vows before God and to your spouse.

None of us are perfect, we all sin, we all fall short, we all know right from wrong and I would argue that even a non-believer understands that they are not supposed to cheat on their spouse.  Either we are serious about this journey of a growing relationship with Christ or we are not…  I could go on and on but I digress. 

To My Wife:  I love you, honor you and honor our commitment before God!

Pastors or anyone else who is cheating, flirting or going down that road needs to: stop, flee and run because ultimately Satan is Playing you like a drum and Pimpin’ you like a ho!

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