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3 Things Every Kid Wants In 2014

3I thoughts the title 3 Things Every Kid Wants In 2014 was an time appropriate and clickable title; however the title of this post is simply “3 Things Every Kid Wants” period, the end.

Parents this post is for your. Consider it a reminder, a wake-up call, a gift or an attention getter similar to what the Chick-fil-A cow would do to get you to “Eat Mor Chikin.”

No matter how old your kids are; you can take it to the bank that they still want these 3 things.

• 1. Spend More Time: Kids want time and they want quality time. We all understand that as they get older  much of their time, conversations and interactions are with their friends, but that doesn’t take away from their deep desire to spend more time with you. Some people take quality time as turning off the technology devices and others are not so concerned about shutting things down as they are about turning the time up.

Hangout, chill, play some sports together, a video game, take a vacation, sit around in your pajamas, talk, laugh, live, watch football, try going to get some manicures and pedicures together. It doesn’t matter the what or the how, what matter sis that you do it. Spend More Time!

• 2. Give More Approval: Kids are always looking for their parents’ approval. As soon as they begin to utter words as a baba they start looking, searching, asking questions and seeking approval of mom and dad or mom or dad: “Is that good enough?” “Did I make you proud?” “Am I stacking up?” “Do you approve?”

As Parents we have the responsibility of always encouraging our kids. When they look over at you in the stands while you’re at the sporting event, give them a big thumbs up. When they are trying out some new style, give them an “I like that you’re being creative and point them to some fashion sites.” When they start dating, put some standards in place and encourage them with an “I trust your judgment.” It doesn’t matter how you give the approval – just give it.

For as long as I can remember, the one thing my mother did was always give her approval, not only her approval but also her encouragement. You can do it, you can do anything if you put your mind to it, I like that you are willing to try. As I’m turning 40 and my mother is turning 70, nothing has changed about her approval and encouragement for me. I was at her house last night before I left on a business trip to LA and she encouraged me and gave me her approval with these words, “Son, I’m so proud of you.” Give More Approval!

• 3. Give More Yes’: When I was a Prison Warden, I had an Office Administrator who lived and operated by a slogan “Starting from yes!” I was always impressed about how she truly operated her life from a “Starting From Yes” perspective. I have come to realize that is a great mindset and mantra for parents to live by.

Let me unpack this a little bit. Parents can have a seemingly natural bad habit of simply starting from no and more importantly they are often times oblivious to it. “Mom, can I go to the movies with Jill?” “NO” “Dad, do you think we can go outside and throw the football?” “NO, Not right now.” “Can I get this, do this, try this, see this, date them, build this, go here, go there???” “NO, NO, NO.”

It’s real easy to get into the habit of saying “NO” just because you can. Saying yes might be just the thing that builds the leader, inspires the entrepreneur, pulls out the strong nature, builds the creative spirit, builds the trust, provides the encouragements, helps to overcome the insecurity and builds a legacy of “Starting From Yes.” Next time you say “NO”, Stop, Pause and Ask Yourself Why? The more you give the “Yes”, the more the “NO’s” are understood and appreciated. Give More Yes’.

A Powerful Christmas Story

This is worth 4:00 minutes of your day during this Christmas Season.

My Life Mission = “Helping Others Win”


Over the years I have found that Helping Others Win is a very important assignment. As a matter of fact, it’s become my personal mission in life, it’s my mission statement. I’ve abbreviated to what I refer to as “I Love HOW!” It isn’t something that I originally set out to do, it’s simply something that I’ve done for as long as I can remember. Before I totally had this conceptualization, I would have countless people tell me that’s what I did, I helped others win. I don’t think that it’s coincidence that what I do for a living as a consultant, executive coach and strategist is Help Others Win.

As leaders, our primary goal should always be to help those around us win. As followers, our primary goal is to help those that we follow win. If those around us are winning, the organization wins and that’s a win win.

As parents it’s important to help our children win. We provide environments, teaching, structure, systems, beliefs and assistance that help create opportunities for their success.

As married couples, we must be wholly committed to helping one another win.

Helping Others Win is such a simple concept, but it’s often overlooked in this self-consuming day and age. It’s much easier for a boss to fire someone, a coach to give up on someone, a parent to be fed up with their wayward child and a spouse to hit the road than it is to commit to winning.

Charlie Sheen may have been off of his rocker a little bit when he was going on the “Winning” rampage, but the one thing he gets is the concept of Winning. In one of his random interviews in which the interview alluded to Sheen being bi-polar, Sheen was quoted as saying, “I’m not bi-polar, I’m bi-winning.”

We need to all become more like Charlie Sheen and be focused on bi-winning. In other-words, we should create situations and foster environments  where everyone wins.

I’m reminded of the importance of Helping Others Win in this passage of scripture:

If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand. Philippians 2:1-4 MSG

Help Someone Win Today!

Win A FREE Copy Of MichaelJrComedy’s “Laughing On Purpose” DVD

The trailer above is just a short clip of the comedy special that my man @MichaelJrComedy filmed at Gateway Church. Let me first say this, Michael, last name Jr. is a friend of mine, he’s the real deal, a great man of God and he just happens to be hilarious. Secondly, let me say that his comedy makes my entire family laugh, my kids were 8 and 12 when they saw him for the 1st time and not only were they cracking up but the content was perfect for them.

That’s what makes him so great is his unique ability to connect with the entire family, any race, any background, any situation and make them laugh, all while keeping it clean. Recently my 5th grade son Jayden was telling me about an interaction that he had with a girl that he has a mutual liking with at school, He said “She looked at me and gave me the lizard look face.” LOL If you don’t know what the “Lizard Look Face” is, you will have to get a copy of Michael Jr’s “Laughing On Purpose” DVD Special.

MichaelJr’s “Laughing On Purpose” DVD is rightfully titled, because it’s comedy with a purpose. The major bonus to anything that MichaelJr does is the fact that there is always a message, a purpose and something meaningful to walk away with. MichaelJr has a comedic gift and he freely gives it away to people in homeless shelters, prisons, youth facilities and countless under-served groups.

“A gift isn’t a gift until you give it away.” ~@MichaelJrComedy

With multiple appearances on late night television, such as The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, Jimmy Kimmel Live, Comedy Central, Willow Creek Leadership Sumit, Bishop TD Jakes MegaFest and almost every large comedian church or event in the country, my man Michael Jr. has definitely made a name for himself. His family-focused, laid-back style is pure comic genius, and “Laughing On Purpose” first solo comedy special on DVD.

“Laughing On Purpose” is an outstanding comedy concert was filmed at Gateway Church in Southlake, TX. Michael’s brilliant comedy is matched by high production values, with a project that was filmed in an excellent venue with a warmly appreciative, engaged audience. It’s now available for purchase at Wal-Mart. (that’s when you know that you are big-time) If you buy it at Wal-Mart go through the self-checkout line because those other lines are way too long. (Wal-Mart hire some more cashiers, now, please)


I have 3 Copies of “Laughing on Purpose” that I will be giving away randomly and winning is very simple, as a matter of fact it’s as easy as 1-2-3:

Winning is easy as 1 – 2 – 3

  • 1. Follow @MichaelJrComedy on Twitter (If you are already following him, thanks for being an over-achiever)
  • 2. Go to @MichaelJrComedy’s Facebook page here and like it. (If you already like his page, thanks you’re an over-achiever
  • 3. Re-Tweet my tweet about winning a copy of the “Laughing On Purpose” DVD (BTW- I’m @scottwilliams).  Here is the tweet to copy and paste, or you can simply find @scottwilliams on twitter and re-tweet it.  “Win A FREE Copy of @MichaelJrComedy’s “Laughing On Purpose” DVD  (you can add a little flavor to your tweet, or re-tweet just make sure I’m copied and it has the above info.)
  • Note: Winners will be selected from random tweets and those who complete steps 1-2-3

Thanks and if you don’t win go buy it at Wal-Mart, good luck on finding a short check-out line.


Succeeding While Doing The Wrong Thing

right thing

Sometimes people confuse success with doing the right thing. They justify doing the wrong thing by saying, “I must be doing something right, its working” or “God must be in it, it’s growing.” As ESPN Analyst Lee Corso says, “Not so fast my friend!” You can totally think you are doing the right thing and appear to be having success, but actually you are doing the wrong thing and setting yourself up for a bigger fall.

If you don’t know whether what you are doing is “Right or Wrong,” seek God and ask the people around you. Not the “yes” men and women around you, but the people that will tell you the truth, those that will call out right and wrong, those that will tell you that you are being prideful and those that will tell you that your thinking needs to be re-calibrated. Ponder This: Do your closed doors look different than your open windows?

The unfortunate thing about success or the appearance of success is it overshadows weaknesses and encourages justification of the negative influences of your life, career, organization, ministry, marriage, parenting etc.

Don’t be fooled by asking yourself the questions, “Am I succeeding? or Is it working?” Instead, look in the mirror and ask yourself this question when making decisions, “Am I doing the right thing?” Remember you might be Succeeding While Doing The Wrong Thing!

Succeeding While Doing The Wrong Thing is another word for FAILING.

It’s always the right time to do the right thing.

10 Excuses People Make


People want to succeed, but find excuses as to why they can’t.

People want a better marriage, but find excuses as to why they don’t.

People want a better job, but find excuses as to why they can’t.

People want to get in shape, but find excuses as to why they won’t.

People want to change themselves, but find excuses as to why they can’t.

People want to change the world, but find excuses as to why they won’t.

People want to be great, but find excuses as to why mediocre is better.

People want to be better parents, but find excuses as to why the aren’t.

People want to kick bad habits, but find excuses as to why the can’t.

People want to be like so and so, but find excuses as to why they can’t.

People make way too many excuses.

If it’s important to you, you will find a way… if not you’ll find an excuse.

Stop Making Excuses!!!

Day Of Hope in #OKC – Peoples Church

DAY OF HOPE 2013 from People's Church on Vimeo.

I love that my church is always finding ways to impact our community… Day of Hope is just one more way the @PeoplesChurch family shows what it means to be the hands and feet of Jesus.

The History of Father’s Day and 5 Father’s Day Scriptures

fathers dayThe Inspiration For Father’s Day Came From a Sermon

Anna Jarvis is recognized as the founder, campaigner and promoter of Mother’s Day in the US. Due to its success, some wanted to create similar holidays for other family members, and Father’s Day was the choice most likely to succeed.

There were a number of people in the US who independently thought of “Father’s Day”; however the credit for the modern holiday is often given to one young lady, who was the driving force behind its establishment. Father’s Day was founded in Spokane, Washington, at the YMCA in 1910 by Mrs. Sonora Smart Dodd. Its first celebration was in the Spokane YMCA on June 19, 1910. Sonora’s father, the Civil War veteran William Jackson Smart, was a single parent who raised his six children there. After hearing a sermon about Jarvis’ Mother’s Day in 1909, she told her pastor that fathers should have a similar holiday honoring them. Although she initially suggested June 5, her father’s birthday, the pastors did not have enough time to prepare their sermons, and the celebration was deferred to the third Sunday of June.

A bill to accord national recognition of the holiday was introduced in Congress in 1913. In 1916, President Woodrow Wilson went to Spokane to speak in a Father’s Day celebration and wanted to make it official, but Congress resisted, fearing that it would become commercialized. US President Calvin Coolidge recommended in 1924 that the day be observed by the nation, but stopped short of issuing a national proclamation. Two earlier attempts to formally recognize the holiday had been defeated by Congress. In 1957, Maine Senator Margaret Chase Smith wrote a proposal accusing Congress of ignoring fathers for 40 years while honoring mothers, thus “singling out just one of our two parents”. In 1966, President Lyndon B. Johnson issued the first presidential proclamation honoring fathers, designating the third Sunday in June as Father’s Day. Six years later, the day was made a permanent national holiday when President Nixon signed it into law in 1972.

5 Father’s Day Scriptures

A Father’s Direction

3 Hear therefore, O Israel, and be careful to do them, that it may go well with you, and that you may multiply greatly, as the Lord, the God of your fathers, has promised you, in a land flowing with milk and honey. 4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. 10 “And when the Lord your God brings you into the land that he swore to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give you—with great and good cities that you did not build, 11 and houses full of all good things that you did not fill, and cisterns that you did not dig, and vineyards and olive trees that you did not plant—and when you eat and are full, 12 then take care lest you forget the Lord, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery. 13 It is the Lord your God you shall fear. Him you shall serve and by his name you shall swear. Deuteronomy 6:3-13 ESV

Pursuit Of Happiness

13-14 Don’t be afraid to correct your young ones; a spanking won’t kill them. A good spanking, in fact, might save them from something worse than death. 15-16 Dear child, if you become wise, I’ll be one happy parent. My heart will dance and sing to the tuneful truth you’ll speak. Proverbs 23:13-16 MSG

Children Should Obey and Fathers Should Not Provoke

1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” 4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:1-4 ESV

Get In Touch With Reality

1-3 God’s Message to Joel son of Pethuel: Attention, elder statesmen! Listen closely, everyone, whoever and wherever you are! Have you ever heard of anything like this? Has anything like this ever happened before—ever? Make sure you tell your children, and your children tell their children, And their children their children. Don’t let this message die out. 4 What the chewing locust left, the gobbling locust ate; What the gobbling locust left, the munching locust ate; What the munching locust left, the chomping locust ate. Joel 1:1-4 MSG

Rules For Christian Homes

18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.19Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. 20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Colossians 3:18-21

Andy Stanley Interviews Rick Warren About Leadership and Ministry

Catalyst West 2009: Rick Warren Interview Part 1 from Catalyst on Vimeo.

Catalyst West 2009: Rick Warren Interview Part 2 from Catalyst on Vimeo.

Oldie but goodie… Andy Stanley interviews Rick Warren in 2009 at Catalyst West Coast.

Key Thoughts:
*A Crowd is not a church
*Pace, Schedule and Doing ministry for the long haul
*The importance of Diverting Daily, Withdrawing Weekly and Abandoning Annually

6 Life Lessons From Fast and Furious 6

fast 6 2This past Friday, my father-in-law came into town and we decided to have a fellas afternoon out. It consisted of lunch and a matinee viewing of Fast and Furious 6. This movie won’t disappoint moviegoers as it’s fast-paced, action-packed, adrenaline rushing, with a great plot and some moments that will make you jump along the way.

Fast and Furious 6 has a stronger moral message than its predecessors. Don’t get me wrong this movie is no G-Rated production; however it does hold true to it’s PG-13 rating some language, bikinis and violence. Outside of some unrealistic moments, which are to be expected Fast and Furious 6 was a great movie with some great lessons. Below are 6 Life Lessons From Fast and Furious 6.

6 Life Lessons From Fast and Furious 6

  • 1. You Don’t Turn Your Back On Family – This was an early quote from Torreto that really set the tone for the entire movie. Good, Bad or Ugly… family is family, don’t turn your back on them. Remember: Some friends are as much family as your biological family 
  • 2. If You Want To Hunt Wolves You Must Have Wolves – This may not be a direct and accurate quote from Torreto; however it was something to that affect. The bottom line is sometimes you have to have the rough and tough to catch the rough and tough, a killer instinct to catch a killer instinct, a former lost person to reach the lost, someone who has been there and done that to help someone that is there and is doing that.
  • 3. We All Have A Weak Spot – This quote from Shaw illustrates that we all have a weak spot, no matter how good we are, how tough we are, how great we are… we all have a weak spot and we all have room for improvement.
  • 4. There Is Never “Nothing,” there is always “Something” – This quote from Luke Hobbs (aka The Rock) illustrates that there is always something happening. Sometimes we can’t see it, smell it, hear it or even feel it happening, but something is happening. In the quietest of moments something is happening. When you think nothing is going on, remember something is going on. When you think that nothing is working, remember something is working. When you think nothing is going your way, remember something is about to breakthrough.
  • 5. No One Makes Me Do Anything, I Do What I Want To Do – This quote by “Letty” has a powerful and truthful message. There is power in embracing that you are responsible for your own actions and decisions. Often times people try to put the blame on everyone else instead of looking in the mirror. You will often hear comments like “The devil or so and so made me do it.” Stop giving the devil and “so and so” so much credit and take responsibility. No one makes you do anything; you do what you want to.
  • 6. Thank God For Family – This was a really nice moment was at the end of the movie when the crew was gathered together at a modest old house in Los Angeles sitting around the table holding hands and about to say grace before their meal. One of the first words out of Roman’s mouth was Thank God For Family. He went on to say thanks for fast cars. This moment is a great reminder that no matter how much we thank God; we still have not thanked Him enough.

Just as in life if you want to find some great lessons from Fast and Furious 6, all you have to do is look, they are right there on the big screen. The movie is a fast and furious ride on the streets of life. The journey gives us some insight as to the importance of family, the virtue of loyalty, the value of life, the ideal of putting others before yourself and the understanding that fighting for something greater than yourself is awesome.

What life lessons did you learn from Fast and Furious 6? Do any of these 6 lessons resonate with you?
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