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"Unleash Me"

I thought that I would share a post today that was inspired by my four year old son Jayden and many parents around the country.  Here is a glimpse of a conversation that we had while shopping in Target this weekend:   

  • Jayden: Dad, why do they have that kid on a leash?
  • Me: Jayden, use your inside voice son.
  • Jayden: I though leashes were for Dogs!
  • Me: Uhhh, (Trying to make a u-turn on the isle)
  • Wesley: Jayden, it’s so that their kid can be trapped and not run off.
  • Me: Laughing very hard, with my inside voice.  (LNOL, Laughing not out loud) 

kid-leash.jpgIf you look at this picture you will see the child-leash harness looking thing.  You know exactly what I’m talking about; you have seen those moms and some dad’s in public walking around the mall, amusement parks, grocery stores, Target, the park…. with their child on a leash.    Give me a break, is it just me or is that ridiculous and irritating?  Those children always have that look on their face, as if to say “Unleash Me.” 

For the Love…. if you are one of those parents who put your child on a leash; please stop the madness and just put them in a stroller; may I simply say “Bless Your Heart!”

Does this irritate you?  Agree, disagree…. discuss and share your thoughts! 

Are there areas of your life in which you are screaming “Unleash Me?”

“Number 4” Life & Leadership Principle

img_0097bw2.jpgMy family was having dinner this past Saturday after church at Chili’s; which is one of our favorite restaurants for consistency.  You can see the picture of my red hot smokin’ wife LaKendria, who is a stone cold fox, easily a 94 on a scale of 100 and my two striking, handsome young sons; Jayden (4) in my lap and Wesley (8).  As we were finishing up our food, my youngest son Jayden stated that he needed to use the restroom.  Before he blurted out what number he needed to do; my wife (LaKendria) quietly asked him what he needed to do.  Jayden informed us and the others around him that he needed to do “number 4.”  LOL!  Jayden, what did you say, did you say number 4?  LOL LOL!  LaKendria proceeded to ask Jayden what number 4 was.   Jayden responded quite boldly: Number 4 is diarrhea!”  

Not only was this moment entertaining, but Jayden provided a valuable life and leadership lesson.  Many times as leaders, parents, spouses…. we accept things as though there are only number ones and number two’s.   

As Jayden clearly illustrated there are many variations of those numbers; as a matter of fact he just defined a new one, the number 4.  I will hear leaders, parents or people say; well that’s the way we do this or that, or we can’t do this or that…  The bottom line is that many times there is a number 4 option available, in whatever situation we are facing. In other words; look for the slight variation; it might be just enough to make a “Big Difference,” if you know what I’m saying.  Some of the world’s best leaders, top CEO’s, best marriages, success stories…  are a result of someone deciding to “take a Number 4.”

Do you find it difficult for yourself or others to look for that number 4?  Share your thoughts!  Also share any lessons have you learned from your children?

Friday Drive-by (11)


  • We kick off a brand new series this weekend entitled “Unstoppable”
  • I will be preaching at the “N-dub” for Week 1 “Unstoppable Vision”


  • Excited about 08’, We will have a family meeting by the New Year, to outline goals for 08’ as well as reflect on all that God has done in 07’


  • Bowl Predictions:  The Big 12 will sweep their Bowl Games
  • BCS Bowl Predictions: Illinois, Hawaii, OU, Kansas, Ohio State

Top 10 Posts of the Year

Unstereotypical    Get Rid of Church Members    It’s a Bloggy Blog World   

Size Does Matter    My Pleasure    Success vs. Excess    Abortion is Murder

I Really Don’t Care What People Think    No Sex Offenders Allowed   

To Drink or Not to Drink

Blogs Who Have Recently added Scott Williams/BigIsTheNewSmall to their blogroll:

apriddyblog    beggarsbread    natile witcher    bo bray    ReadScott

If I am missing your blog, let me know so that I can add you to the list. 

The Best of 07′ 

Quotes:  The Best Quote of the year!

  •  “Don’t tase me bro!” Andrew Meyer

Got Questions:

Is it just me, or is one of your NewYears Resolutions every year “to get in shape?”  What are some of your New Years Resolutions for 08′?

Thanks for reading and thanks for all the LinkLove!

Quit Trying to be Like the Jones'

Drive-Thru Lesson 3 (of 4) 

It’s the American way: Sports, Apple Pie, I-Pods, Cell Phones, Trends….. and trying to be like the Jones’.   There is one fast food restaurant franchise that has experienced tremendous success by deciding to Quit Trying to be Like the Jones’.  I am referring to America’s favorite Sub-Sandwich spot SUBWAY.  Just reflect back when the Jones’ of fast food were burger joints popping up on every corner asking  “Where’s the Beef?” telling you that “You can have it your way” and reminding you how many “Millions have been served.”  In 1965 a 17 year old kid named Fred DeLuca got a $1,000 investment to open what would become the antithesis of the burger joints and would change the landscape of fast food for years to come. 

Fast forward to 2007 and the Jones’ is no longer King McWendy, instead it’s Mr. SUBWAY.  Just as we are being reminded that Americans are horribly overweight and unhealthy, SUBWAY introduced us to Jared; who lost 245 ponds eating SUBWAY and exercising.  Now comes the next generation of wannabe Jones’ with sub-shops popping up all over the place.  The same is true for contemporary wannabe Mega Churches.  This SUBWAY season of the Jones’ will last for a long time because of its healthy nature; however the real question is “Who or what will define the next generation of Jones’?” 

Thoughts From Subway:

  • The Product– Fresh Submarine sandwiches
  • The Ad Campaign– Jared who lost 245 lbs. eating SUBWAY
  • The Results– 28,516 restaurants in 85 countries, Voted #1 Franchise

Are we spending so much time at work, church, and with our family trying to be like the Jones’ that we are missing the opportunity to define the next generation of Jones’? 

BTW- The last name we need to be like is not Jones, it’s Christ!

The Thanksgiving Meal

Thakful 4 (of 4)

Thank You Jesus for………………………………….Amen!

We are on our way to Houston and here is what I think is on the Menu:

  • Turkey
  • Dressing
  • Gravy
  • Ham (Me and the boys don’t eat pork)
  • Ribs (Me and the boys don’t eat pork)
  • Brisket
  • Green Beans
  • Macaroni and Cheese
  • Ambrosia Salad
  • Mashed Potatoes
  • Candied Yams
  • Cranberry Sauce
  • Broccoli and Rice Casserole
  • Rolls
  • Pecan Pie
  • Sweet Potato Pie
  • Cranberry Apple Pecan Pie
  • German Chocolate Cake
  • Cherry Cheese Pie
  • Strawberry Cake
  • Chocolate Chocolate Chip Cake
  • Lemon Streusel Cake
  • Football
  • Nap
  • I know that I am missing some stuff!

What’s on your menu?

God Bless You and Have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Cancer is Pissing Me Off!

I have been thinking over the last few years about the significant increases in the number of people and families that are affected by Cancer.  The rates of Cancer increase around the world are growing astronomically on a yearly basis.  According to the World Cancer Report, the most comprehensive global examination of the disease to date; Cancer rates could further increase by 50% to 15 million new cases in the year 2020.  This report also provides clear evidence that healthy lifestyles and public health action by governments and health practitioners could stem this trend, and prevent as many as one third of cancers worldwide.  I just know that I am sick and tired of talking to and hearing about mothers, fathers, family members, friends, spouses, children….. facing this horrible disease.   It really breaks my heart!

Sorry to be so crass, but the bottom line is that Cancer is Pissing Me Off!                 How about you?  Share your thoughts!

Just Because or Because

I had one of those “Ah Ha” moments this week in our staff meeting as we were visiting and sharing what we call “God Moments.” As I was communicating a team member’s situation, I made a comment using a word combination that I found to be intriguing “Just Because or Because.”  A team member had approached me about their role, whether it was the right fit and the fact that they felt as though they were doing their role in ministry “Just Because;” instead of doing their role “Because” they are called to that specific role.   Hmmmmmm, green light!  There is some wisdom in being honest with yourself, your job, your friends, your family or your calling and recognize the things that you do “Just Because!”  Have we arrived at a place where we accept doing things “Just Because, Just Because”   Here are some “Just Because” statements to ponder:

  • I say my grace before I eat, Just Because….
  • I disrespect adults, Just Because….
  • I go to a job that I don’t like, Just Because….
  • I stay in an abusive relationship, Just Because….
  • I am voting for so and so, Just Because….
  • I don’t believe in God, Just Because….
  • I don’t feel comfortable around those people, Just Because….
  • I don’t think she can be a Pastor, Just Because….
  • I am not doing that today, Just Because….
  • I raise my voice, Just Because….
  • I don’t likes so and so, Just Because….

Okay, you get the picture!  The bottom line is that these “Just Becauses” are nothing more than a bunch of Big Fat Excuses to not be intellectually honest and begin to do things “Because!” Do you find yourself or others you know doing things “Just Because?”  Share your thoughts!

Weekend Off


I had the weekend off and it was the first time in a very long time.  I thought I would share some of my last few days of life experiences: 

FRIDAY– My wife and I went to Clinton, Oklahoma for the rehearsal dinner for a couple that I was marrying.  They had a huge Cajun crab boil (a bunch of food dumped on a table) and believe it or not my wife and I both enjoyed it.  We are very simple eaters and we tried everything except for the crawfish.  No Thanks! 

SATURDAY– I had the privilege to marry James and Joanna Roller, the ceremony was great and they are off to Las Vegas.   I made it back in time to watch my Sooner’s absolutely throttle North Texas; they could have scored at least 100 points.  It’s going to be a great season! 

SUNDAY– I watched the message on the Internet Campus; it was cool to chat with the folks attending the IC.  My family and I also attended the People’s Church this morning, led by Senior Pastor Herbert Cooper.  We all had a great time and enjoyed the life application from the message.  Herbert is a gifted leader, great communicator and has a God-Sized vision for People’s Church.  Their ministry is doing awesome and I really believe that God is just getting started.  I think Herbert says it best, “THE BEST IS YET TO COME.”  Check out Herbert’s Blog: 

We had lunch at Applebee’s and then we took the boys to the Dollar Movie to see Shreck the 3rd.  I have not been to a dollar movie in forever, let me just say “You get what you pay for.”

No More School Clothes

My eight year old son Wesley returns to school today and he’s going to be in the third grade.  It’s always a big family outing to go shopping for school clothes and school supplies; however this year we decided to do things differently.  My wife had the chore of taking our sons to get school clothes and I had the responsibility of getting the school supplies.  This was great for everyone because I can get impatient with going to all the different stores and walking around the mall.  Also, whenever I do go shopping with the family, I always seem to ask the question “No, how much does it cost?”  The bottom line is that my wife is much better at picking out some cool threads for the kids and has the patience to make school clothes shopping fun.  On the other hand, it was nice for me take the boys school supply shopping, because all we had to do was get the items on the list.  I let the boys get whatever kind of folder, supply box, pencils, glue and markers they wanted.  The hardest thing was the lunch pails, my oldest son ended up with a race car theme and my youngest son got Little Einstein’s.  I have decided that there will be No More School Clothes shopping for me, that is now officially my wife’s role and I will gladly take the role of shopping for the school supplies.  We should have made this change sooner; it would have saved our family some time, energy and grief.  

What tasks do you need to delegate?  What roles do you and your spouse need to clearly delineate?  What has God placed on your heart, for you to take off your plate?  Share your thoughts.      

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