One of my many observations was the flow of the transportation system. The roads in some places were rougher than the most rural roads you can find in the US. About half of the drivers were on motorcycles and the other half were in a car of some sort. Actually Toyota is by far the vehicle of choice in Benin City, Nigeria.
You have these rough roads, with stretches of decent roads and you have people that drive like New York City cab drivers after drinking a couple of 5-hr energy drinks. You have lots of people walking around and to top it all off “Pedestrians Don’t Have The Right-Away.” In other words if you are walking across the street, near the street, have a child in your arms… you will get honked at and plowed over by a vehicle if you don’t hurry up and get out of the way. It’s actually crazy.
I talked to my friend Ayo who was on the trip with me about the driving situation. 5 years ago Ayo moved from Nigeria to Atlanta and he said it’s crazy for people in the US to think that they can walk in front of a multi-ton steel machine and think that the machine should stop for them. He said that’s actually crazy.
The craziest thing about the crazy driving situation in Nigeria is the fact that I didn’t see any wrecks, I didn’t see anyone giving someone the bird because someone honked at them or cut them off, I didn’t see anyone get hit by a car and driving was an ends to a mean and people didn’t really get emotional about it one way or another. This whole system was crazy to me; however I began to see how normal it was.
Once I returned to my home in suburban USA, I watched the news and saw an incident that happened at a Super Target Store not far from my home. According to news reports two vehicle drivers got involved in some type of road rage incident that led the men to meet in a Target Parking lot. One of the men (57 years old) confronted the other (29 year old) man, pulled out a gun shot and killed him. The 29 year old was going to school to be a Doctor.
Please draw your own conclusion… I’ll simply end this post with these words.
When Crazy Is Normal
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The longer I live and the more people I meet, talk to, work with, counsel, mentor and simply listen to; the more I realize people struggle and fight for authenticity. People have a deep desire to be “who they truly are” but find themselves caught up like a hamster trapped in the wheel of mimicry.
No matter the person or the level of success they have achieved, the overarching reason they feel trapped and unable to be authentic is due to fear. Fear of what people think. Fear of being chastised. Fear of being wrong. Fear of making a mistake. Fear that the authentic individual deep down inside of them might be a little more daring, caring and sharing.
The crazy thing is that God didn’t give you the spirit of fear; however He did give you an authentic spirit, an authentic you. Drop the fear, let go of the fake and pick up the authentic. Authenticity will bring about challenges, critics and mistakes… Be authentic anyway.
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” – C. Jung
You were brought into this world as an original, please don’t leave it as a phony. You are now free to move about the cabin of life… You Have The Freedom To Be Authentic.
Why do you think it is so difficult for people to be authentic?
I enjoy writing, reading, thinking, dreaming, believing and being challenged. Sometimes the most thought provoking writing and discussions are not facilitated by a statement, but rather by the asking of a simple question. Life is all about questions and answers.
In the grand scheme of things, often times people spend the most time trying to please the people that matter the least.
Question: “Who are you trying to please?” Better Question: “Why?”
I was one of the speakers for Leadership Network’s TheNines Conference again this year. This year’s task was quite simple – shoot a 5 minute video answering one the 9 questions. This is the video that we shot answering the question: How Do You Manage Your Time?
My man @SamsonVarughese brought the video to life for me with a little extra effects.
How do you manage your time?
Over the last 5 years of serving as a Pastor at LifeChurch.tv, which has a cool, hip, relevant denim type dress code; I found that I wore denim 90% of the time and the other 10% consisted of weekend athletic apparel and an occasional suit for a wedding or funeral. The 5 years prior to that consisted of 90% suits as I spent most of my time in business meetings, walking around the State Capitol and other environments where suits were the dress code.
Over the years style has really changed and evolved to a more overall casual look. I attribute it to the era of the $200 designer jeans. Men and ladies alike can dress up a nice pair of denim and they can dress down a nice pair of denim.
My wife and I recently went to an event in which the dress code was “Business Casual.” I’ll be honest, I googled business casual just to double check, because style is ever evolving and changes my the month. One thing I know about business casual, is there are different definitions.
My old school definition is, Slacks or Khakis with a polo or collared shirt at the least for Men and slacks, skirts, blouses at the least for women. You can dress any of these up; however denim and shorts are not considered part of the business casual attire.
There was one guy at this particular event that had on shorts and a Hawaiian shirt. He actually jokingly shared with the group that he had a more casual view of business casual.
Business Casual is kind of tricky… How would you define or describe Business Casual?
This is one of those questions that keeps popping up and popping up — so I thought I would just take the discussion to the people. I was able to listen to, engage in and play devils advocate a recent Harry Potter Debate amongst some ministry staff.
According to an on-line Bible ministry that answers questions through a Biblical framework, they said this about Harry Potter and the debate: “Harry Potter books and films are full of stereotypical magic. Witchcraft and wizardry are central themes, and the lead roles are played by wizards, witches, and other magical creatures. Although the characters practice casting spells, reading crystal balls, etc., they do not communicate with spiritual (supernatural) forces. While this may be considered a positive, one definite negative is that there is no higher power to answer to at all.”
I’m not sure exactly what all of that means from a contextual perspective, because I have not seen the movie or read the book. I have not made the choice “to see or not to see” because of any specific reason, thought or belief… I simply have never watched it. I used to watch this cartoon called Hip Hop Harry with my youngest son, but I think that may be a different show. 🙂
The scripture that those arguing against indulging in Potter is Deuteronomy 18:10-12 “Let no one be found among you who sacrifices their son or daughter in the fire, who practices divination or sorcery, interprets omens, engages in witchcraft, or casts spells, or who is a medium or spiritist or who consults the dead. Anyone who does these things is detestable to the Lord; because of these same detestable practices the Lord your God will drive out those nations before you.”
Those on the other side of the argument, say “Why stop there the list could go on and on about the types of movies you should and should not watch.”
What do you think?
Should Christians Watch or Read Harry Potter? Is it different for adults and children? Share your reasons for or against. Ready, Set, Go!
“The growth and development of people is the highest calling of leadership.” ~Harvey Firestone, Founder of Firestone Tires
Is the encouragement, development and producing of other leaders the greatest measure of success for a leader?
Everyone has a different opinion about the sequence of numbers 666. Often times people will change their hotel room, phone number or a host of other things if the number 666 is anywhere within. As a matter of fact just recently I had a family in my church that had to ask me to write a letter to the Social Security Administration on behalf of their young child who was issued a Social Security number ending in 666.
Here is the context from scripture in the book of Revelation. “This calls for wisdom. If anyone has insight, let him calculate the number of the beast, for it is man’s number. His number is 666.” Revelation 13:18
Again, there are some people who are not bothered at all by the number… I have a pastor friend whose mobile number ends in 666. On the other hand there are people who are really bothered and the thought of the number causes them mental discomfort.
Where do you fall? Are you bothered by the number 666. Are you the person who will change your numbers and such or do you simply say no big deal?
Share your thoughts!