One of my many observations was the flow of the transportation system. The roads in some places were rougher than the most rural roads you can find in the US. About half of the drivers were on motorcycles and the other half were in a car of some sort. Actually Toyota is by far the vehicle of choice in Benin City, Nigeria.
You have these rough roads, with stretches of decent roads and you have people that drive like New York City cab drivers after drinking a couple of 5-hr energy drinks. You have lots of people walking around and to top it all off “Pedestrians Don’t Have The Right-Away.” In other words if you are walking across the street, near the street, have a child in your arms… you will get honked at and plowed over by a vehicle if you don’t hurry up and get out of the way. It’s actually crazy.
I talked to my friend Ayo who was on the trip with me about the driving situation. 5 years ago Ayo moved from Nigeria to Atlanta and he said it’s crazy for people in the US to think that they can walk in front of a multi-ton steel machine and think that the machine should stop for them. He said that’s actually crazy.
The craziest thing about the crazy driving situation in Nigeria is the fact that I didn’t see any wrecks, I didn’t see anyone giving someone the bird because someone honked at them or cut them off, I didn’t see anyone get hit by a car and driving was an ends to a mean and people didn’t really get emotional about it one way or another. This whole system was crazy to me; however I began to see how normal it was.
Once I returned to my home in suburban USA, I watched the news and saw an incident that happened at a Super Target Store not far from my home. According to news reports two vehicle drivers got involved in some type of road rage incident that led the men to meet in a Target Parking lot. One of the men (57 years old) confronted the other (29 year old) man, pulled out a gun shot and killed him. The 29 year old was going to school to be a Doctor.
Please draw your own conclusion… I’ll simply end this post with these words.
When Crazy Is Normal
Share your thoughts!
Where should I be learning from? I’m not even sure if that question is proper English; however I do know that it’s a great question to ask. The answer to the question is this: “from a variety of places.” If we want to grow we must learn from many different places, especially places outside of our normal purview.
If you are in ministry and you are only learning from ministry books, people and stuff… you are missing out. If you are in sales and you are only learning from sales folks… you are missing out. If you are a coach and you only learn from coaches… you are missing out.
I learn from politicians, air line companies, restaurants, my wife, blogs, car commercials, shoe boxes, window shopping, people watching, my kids, television, Chick-fil-A, radio, culture, criminals, weather men, football coaches, girl blogs, fashion designers, marting gurus, Seth Godin, Target, road construction workers, babies, clouds, birds, from the Delta Flight Attendant that just said on behalf of Northwest Airlines…
You were Born to Learn. You don’t have to teach a baby to learn, that’s what they were born to do. Open your eyes, search for new people, places and things to learn from.
If you limit where you learn, you limit the potential of your growth.
What do you think?
For those of you that may not know, I travel a lot; which means I find myself in many different airports and airplanes. This affords me the opportunity to meet and interact with lots of different people. I constantly interact with everyone from TSA security, to the person traveling beside me to the various flight attendants working my flights.
My favorite airline is Southwest Airlines, I’m glad I can still say that even after I went through a couple week period of some unusual challenges. Customer Relations did a great job of taking care of me during those challenges. I fly so much with the “Luv Airline,” that I’m companion fare status, which means my companion flies with me for free. (Gotta luv free) I luv the way Southwest operates and the fact that the flight attendants and crew aren’t so uptight. The fact that they are one of the only major airlines turning a profit is a nice bonus and lets me know their business model works.
Every once in awhile I will get one of those flight attendants or crews that do an over-the-top job and provide exceptional service. Whether it is making sure that everyone is laughing during their pre-flight announcements or simply going above and beyond the entire flight.
I’m actually typing this post, due to the fact that I have watched our flight attendant named Christine on flight 464 from San Diego to Chicago. She was part of our Chicago based flight crew. Not only was she extremely funny and engaging during pre-flight announcements, but also she handled the crying baby behind me like a super-nanny, interacted with the multiple cocktail ordering guy in front of me like a bar tender from cheers, delivered snacks like they were fancy horderves and she just did everything with extreme excellence. To top it all off she responded to everyone’s “Thank You’s” with a Chick-fil-a “My Pleasure.”
I actually stopped her after watching her interact for the 1st hour and ½ of our 3 and ½ hour flight. I said, “Excuse me, what is your name?” She replied, “Christine” with a smile. I then said, “You really do a superb job!” She responded with, “Thank you so much sir, I really do Luv what I do.”
Such a powerful lesson in her statement — When you luv what you do, you will do a superb job. If you are not doing what you luv, it may be time to do something different. Something you can do with a smile, with excellence and something that everyone will notice that you are doing a superb job. If you are doing what you luv, make sure you act like it.
Do you luv what you do? Share any examples or experiences you have interacting with someone who obviously luved their job.
- SON: ‘Daddy, may I ask you a question?’
- DAD: ‘Yeah sure, what it is?’ replied the man.
- SON: ‘Daddy, how much do you make an hour?’
- DAD: ‘That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?’ the man said angrily.
- SON: ‘I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?’
- DAD: ‘If you must know, I make $50 an hour.’
- SON: ‘Oh,’ the little boy replied, with his head down.
- SON: ‘Daddy, may I please borrow $25?’
The father was furious, ‘If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don’t work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.’ The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down , and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $25.00 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door. ‘Are you asleep, son?’ He asked. ‘No daddy, I’m awake,’ replied the boy. ‘I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier’ said the man ‘It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $25 you asked for.’
The little boy sat straight up, smiling. ‘Oh, thank you daddy!’ He yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father. ‘Why do you want more money if you already have some?’ the father grumbled. Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do,’ the little boy replied. ‘Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.’
The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time s lip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $50 worth of your time with someone you love.
If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.
dream BIG. think BIGGER.
Thx to whoever sent this little e-mail story around 4 yrs. ago. I have held on to it.
I was on my way to a meeting last month and I drove by this bench billboard advertisement. I thought it was clever, edgy, effective and it caught my attention. I decided to take a pic and now I’m sharing it with you.
Share your thoughts on this advertisements or other clever advertisements that have caught your attention.
I enjoy writing, reading, thinking, dreaming, believing and being challenged. Sometimes the most thought provoking writing and discussions are not facilitated by a statement, but rather by the asking of a simple question. Life is all about questions and answers.
In the grand scheme of things, often times people spend the most time trying to please the people that matter the least.
Question: “Who are you trying to please?” Better Question: “Why?”
I have always been amazed by the hatred that Tim Tebow has received over the life of his public athletic career. When he was at the University of Florida many people couldn’t stand him and the fact that he proudly represented John 3:16 on his eye black, his famous speech “The Promise” the incident with blood running down his face and the list goes on and on. I always liked Tebow in college, simply because of how he represented himself, although I didn’t particularly like his coach or the Florida Gators.
Now that Tim Tebow is in the NFL this Love/Hate condition is even larger and on a more national level. In the City of Denver Tebow gets ripped by Anti-Christian groups on a regular basis. Yet, he gets cheered on by thousands of fans that have made his Jersey one of the most purchased Jersey’s in the NFL. Tim Tebow is more than a quarterback for the Denver Broncos, he’s an iconic figure that’s represents Christian, good and wholesome.
Tebow appears to have gotten used to the criticism and has never once backed down from outwardly sharing his faith, as matter of fact he boldly ends every interview with “God Bless!” People in the media and NFL analysts are publicly concluding that the hatred of Tebow is primarily based upon his outward showing of his faith and religious beliefs. Inside the NFL host “JB” James Brown asked his co-host Cris Collinsworth a question regarding how Time Tebow is treated and Collinsworth was straightforward about his thoughts. Collinsworth said, “It’s unbelievable JB, that one of the best kids – pure kids that’s ever come into the NFL, is hated because of his faith, because of his mission work, because of the fact that he wears it on his sleeve…”
In Matthew 10 in the Bible, Jesus talks about people hating you because of Him. I think Tebow not only understands that but lives with the understanding of Matthew 10:32-33 “Whoever acknowledges me before others, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven. But whoever disowns me before others, I will disown before my Father in heaven.”
I recently experienced a similar Love/Hate relationship in regards to Chick-fil-A. I was doing some consulting with one of my clients and I was using an analogy of Chick-fil-a with this room full of department leaders. We had even discussed having lunch at Chick-fil-A, in order to observe and learn. One of the leaders in the room was adamant about the fact that he didn’t want to go to Chick-fil-A and that he didn’t like them, their leadership, their Christian views and what they stand for. It’s one thing to disagree with someone because of their views, however this hatred and dislike that comes from the Anti-Christian is superfluous.
No matter how much people hate on Tebow or Chick-fil-A for that matter, the bottom line is they win. After weeks of “Tebow” chanting fans in Denver, the 3rd string QB finally got his start yesterday against the Miami Dolphins. He was back in Florida, somewhat of a homecoming and had both Miami and Denver fans cheering him on and his college coach Urban Meyer on the Miami sidelines. Tebow started slow; however in the 4th quarter he led a very improbable comeback that only puts more fuel on the Love/Hate Tebow fire. In his first start this year, Tebow rallied the Denver Broncos with two touchdown passes in the final 2:44 of the fourth quarter to force overtime, and Matt Prater ‘s 52-yard field goal gave them an 18-15 win Sunday over the stunned Miami Dolphins
For the Anti-Christian’s and those who hate Tebow exclusively because of his faith, I say get a grip. Instead of always focusing on what you are against, take a play out of Tim Tebow’s playbook and focus on what you are for. I’ll end this with a little wisdom and life perspective from a young NFL QB by the name of Tim Tebow who happens to be a man of faith, “If someone asks, I’ll always be willing to share His will because I also know that there are a lot more important things than football and that is one of them. That ultimately overrides football any day of the week.”
What do you think about the Love/Hate relationship with Tim Tebow and the Anti-Christian? Why are so many people willing to loudly share what they are against and not so willing to do the same about what they are for?
Over the last 5 years of serving as a Pastor at LifeChurch.tv, which has a cool, hip, relevant denim type dress code; I found that I wore denim 90% of the time and the other 10% consisted of weekend athletic apparel and an occasional suit for a wedding or funeral. The 5 years prior to that consisted of 90% suits as I spent most of my time in business meetings, walking around the State Capitol and other environments where suits were the dress code.
Over the years style has really changed and evolved to a more overall casual look. I attribute it to the era of the $200 designer jeans. Men and ladies alike can dress up a nice pair of denim and they can dress down a nice pair of denim.
My wife and I recently went to an event in which the dress code was “Business Casual.” I’ll be honest, I googled business casual just to double check, because style is ever evolving and changes my the month. One thing I know about business casual, is there are different definitions.
My old school definition is, Slacks or Khakis with a polo or collared shirt at the least for Men and slacks, skirts, blouses at the least for women. You can dress any of these up; however denim and shorts are not considered part of the business casual attire.
There was one guy at this particular event that had on shorts and a Hawaiian shirt. He actually jokingly shared with the group that he had a more casual view of business casual.
Business Casual is kind of tricky… How would you define or describe Business Casual?
As I’m sitting here in my hotel room in the middle of Times Square in #NYC, I’m thinking about this theme and these shirts about people people loving or (hearting) NY. As a matter of fact it was one of the more requested souvenir items from my friends and family back in #OKC.
We have been to NYC many times and every time I find myself leaving saying the exact same thing. That is a great city to visit, but there is no way that I could live there. This time my wife and I are actually here with another couple, who happen to be long time great friends. It has been great to take a bite out of the Big Apple together. We walked the streets of #NYC last night and let me tell you this place doesn’t sleep, it doesn’t stop and many people seem to love NY.
It was around midnight last night (Sunday) that we stopped by Starbucks in Times Square and the place was hopping. We asked the barista what time they close and her response was, “We Don’t.” NY doesn’t sleep or at least the persona is that it’s always moving, always happening and it’s the epicenter for those making things happen and those wanting to make things happen.
As I was standing in the middle of this make things happen city, I was reminded of the lyrics of rapper, entrepreneur and mogul Jay-Z’s song “Empire State Of Mind.” A small sampling of the song, the chorus sang by Alicia Keys is below:
“In New York, concrete jungle where dreams are made, oh
There’s nothing you can’t do, now you’re in New York
These streets will make you feel brand new
Big lights will inspire you, let’s hear it for New York
New York, New York…”
I do agree with Jay-Z in the fact that the BIG lights can inspire you. They can inspire you to dream BIG. think BIGGER. This is truly a city of dreams a city of potential.
I love BIG DREAMS!
I love POTENTIAL!
You know what, I might just love NY.
Share your thoughts on the Big City Of Dreams… Who knows you may win an I <3 NY t-shirt.