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How To Effectively Handle Criticism

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Criticism is a one of those words that seems to cut most people like a knife.  Although the knife doesn’t seem as sharp when we put the word “constructive” in front of the word criticism; none-the-less the word still seems to pierce.

When I was growing up my mom would always tell me: “Son, you can’t control or worry about what people say… you can only control what you say and what you do.” Later on in life, as a young leader I had a mentor that would always say “If you’re doing something worthy of people taking shots at you… they will. I would much rather have a leader that people don’t always understand and who are occasionally criticized, than a “leader” that no one ever talks about.”  I’ve heard one of my old pastors say something like, “If you want to find the leader, look for the one with the arrow in their back!”

I tend to view criticism as neutral. As a matter of fact I view it from the perspective of the phrase that no one likes to say or hear and that is this: “It Is What It Is!” I prefer to “Eat The Meat and Spit Out The Bones!” When you are chewing on the meat of life, you might find some pieces that are not cooked to you’re liking, tough, salty and that simply don’t taste right. Although they are not cooked to your liking, it may be beneficial to go ahead and consume them. It’s called life lessons and learning experiences. Again, “Eat The Meat and Spit Out The Bones!”

If you don’t want to be criticized, I have some advice for you: Say Nothing, Do Nothing & Be Nothing!

It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

I don’t ever want to find my place with those “Cold and Timid Souls.”

Criticism: “It Is What It Is!”

Why Insecure Leaders Need To Wear Glasses

blindInsecure leaders have a hard time seeing the best in other because their eyes are covered by their own insecurities. Insecure leaders have difficulty seeing the value of taking responsibility and ownership for failures because their eyes are covered by their own insecurities. Insecure leaders will never see or realize their own potential because they are blinded by their own insecurities.

Insecure leaders need to put on the glasses of security and confidence that can only truly be found in Jesus.

Find Jesus, Find Confidence, Find Security and See Again.

Michael Jordan Wisdom – Rare Interviews On Life, Success, Failure, Persistence and Sports

Great wisdom, encouragement and inspiration from the greatest ever.

A True Leader – (Video)

This video is simple, fresh and true.

Leaders see the problem, they attempt a solution, they fail, they keep trying, they inspire others and together they succeed.

Leading On Empty

emptyIt’s a risky proposition to continue to drive your vehicle with the fuel light on and the gas hand on empty. I know “On Empty” is probably not the best word choice for the grammar teachers; however it is a phrase that I think you understand. You can run on empty for a little while, but eventually the car is going to stop. This is also very true for leaders.

Leaders can’t continue to run if they don’t rest, relax, take time off, allow others to pour into them, learn from others, free their mind and refuel. I know this sounds like a novel concept, unfortunately many leaders don’t time to rest and even worse they don’t allow their staff the opportunities to refuel.

If you are a leader and you have the mindset and take the position that I don’t need to rest, YOLO and I can rest when I’m in my casket… you aren’t leading.

Leading on empty! No such thing. If you stay on empty, you are no more than puttering around on fumes  all while putting yourself and everyone around you at risk of a train wreck.

What You Should Do When The People Around You Don’t Believe In You

believe2Belief in people is of paramount importance as it relates to the success that they will have. As a matter of fact, believing in others is the fuel that propels them down the road to success.

What should you do when those around you don’t believe in you?  

You should find a different group of people to surround yourself with. If the people that don’t believe in you are friends and family, limit your interactions with them, tell them they’re wrong and more importantly believe n yourself and prove them wrong.

“Some are destined to succeed, some are determined to succeed.” ~H.H. Swami

You tend to become who those closest and most important to you think you will become. Choose those that are most important and closest to you wisely.

Looking For Success In All The Wrong Places

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Some people look for success in things.

Some people look for success in their jobs.

Some people look for success in approval from their supervisor.

Some people look for success in all the wrong places.

Success truly happens when you begin looking in the mirror.

Looking in the mirror, asking the tough questions and embracing the tough answers.

What does God think about me and my perception of success?

What does my family think about me and my perception of success?

Success is illusive when you are looking in the wrong places.

Success is a more realistic chase when you look through the proper lens.

Look up to God, look in the mirror at yourself and stop looking out to others.

The Nontrepreneur

faith2There are so many entrepreneurs that never seem to get their entrepreneurial ship to set sail. They have the ideas, the vision, the story, the expertise, the ability… but they lack the faith to make it happen. Notice I didn’t say they lack the finances, the support or the opportunity. Entrepreneurs are individuals who take a series of faith steps to pursue what’s already inside of them.

Unfortunately, most people never realize their entrepreneurial dreams because they settle for being The Nontrepreneur. The Nontrepreneur has all the potential to be a successful entrepreneur but they settle for helping someone else achieve their goals  and dreams instead of pursuing their own.

To those that are stuck in chasm on Nontrepreneurism, allow that to be temporary and motivation for the entrepreneurial success that is to come. You have to chase after what is inside of you, otherwise what’s inside of you will slowly eat you up like the drippy faucet of regret. The late Steve Jobs says it this way:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~Steve Jobs

Remember, no successful entrepreneur ever jumped to the finish line of success, they all started their journey by planning, plotting and taking that single step of faith. Mr. and Mrs. Nontrepreneur it’s time that you get to stepping.

How To Create A Culture Of Movement and Become A Molder Of Consensus

consensus1Trying hard, working hard and managing can often times be confused with leading.  Leadership is about leading people and creating a natural movement.  Leaders lead people, managers manage things.  A leader should be in the business of creating a culture of movement, a culture of action and a culture of success.

You might ask, “How does a leader do this?”  Leaders are either innately gifted at leading or develop an ability to create buy-in to what they’re selling.  They are able to sell their leadership with a compelling vision and more importantly what’s inside of them is compelling.  Leaders don’t sit around and wait on the wind to blow or people to tell them what to do.   Leaders get things done and develop an army of people to get it done with them.

Martin Luther King Jr. once said, “A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus but a molder of consensus.”  That is one of the most true statements about leadership, it’s not about searching for others to provide answers.  Leadership is about pointing towards a destination and walking the walk until you get there.  If you walk the walk and people believe in what you are selling they will follow you.

If you are molding a sculpture into a beautiful work of art, it takes time to shape, create and form.  The same is true for leadership, it takes time to mold, create and shape a leadership culture of success.

Stop searching for consensus and start molding consensus.

Why You Are Choosing To Fail and Failing To Admit It

fail1You are failing because you are unwilling to run after the things that God has placed in your heart. You are failing because you are settling for a job that you don’t even like. You are failing because you are settling for a relationship that you know is not God’s best. You are failing because you are putting your work over your family.

Yes, there are areas where you are choosing the letter grade of “F.”

Not only are you failing, but you are failing to admit it.

If you admit that you are failing, that would mean that you accept the fact that you have the power to do something about it. That’s a hard truth, a sobering reality and if viewed through the right lens, it’s a dose of motivation.

Stop choosing to fail and failing to admit.

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