Big Is The New Small

If I am being completely honest, the one thing that has shocked me since I have been in full-time vocational ministry, is the number of Men that come into my office to talk about their struggle with pornography.  Statistically 50% of Christian Men struggle with pornography.

Over the years, my naivety has turned into the harsh realization that pornography is a huge problem that’s plaguing the Christian community and society in general.  It’s great to see organizations like XXXChurch.com fight the good fight and help people who are struggling with this sin.  In the next couple of weeks, there will be an event help address this problem and provide solutions.

Starting today May 23rd thru May 28th,  LifeChurch.tv and XXXChurch.com present ThePornEvent.com, a 25-minute interactive experience focused on the real-life effects of pornography. ThePornEvent.com has two segments, one for men and one for women.  These online “Billy Graham Like” crusade will free many people from this devastating sin.  More details and the schedule can be found at ThePornEvent.com.

What I really like about this event is that LifeChurch.tv is strategically going after those people who are searching for pornography.  We have bought tons of google AdWords to help bring folks that are searching for porn face to face with help, stories from people with similar struggles and hear a message about a God who loves them unconditionally.  Imagine someone surfing the web right now and searching for words like: Sex, Porn, Boobies, Naked Ladies and many more that I can’t mention (BigIsTheNewSmall.com is family friendly).  As they are searching imagine an advertisement that reads something like “Looking for naked ladies? Click here or Looking for boobies? click here!”  I just love this concept…  truly going into all the world.

ThePornEvent.com we will examine the effect porn has on people’s lives and relationships, and look at next steps for those who are struggling. Expect a non-threatening environment featuring stories, helpful answers, and an open conversation with people who’ve traveled a similar path. ThePornEvent.com is for anyone who is interested in what it looks like to live a life beyond pornography.

The Porn Event is happening right now, spread the word and join the conversation at ThePornEvent.com.

What do you think about the use of Google AdWords to draw people in?

If I am being completely honest, the one thing that has shocked me since I have been in full-time vocational ministry, is the number of Men that come into my office to talk about their struggle with pornography.  Over the years, my naivety has turned into the harsh realization that pornography is a huge problem that’s plaguing the Christian community and society in general.  It’s great to see organizations like XXXChurch.com fight the good fight and help people who are struggling with this sin.  In the next couple of weeks, there will be an event help address this problem and provide solutions.

From May 23-28, LifeChurch.tv and XXXChurch.com present ThePornEvent.com, a 25-minute interactive experience focused on the real-life effects of pornography. ThePornEvent.com has two segments, one for men and one for women; more details and the schedule can be found at ThePornEvent.com.

During ThePornEvent.com we will examine the effect porn has on our lives and relationships, and look at next steps for those who are struggling. Expect a non-threatening environment featuring stories, helpful answers, and an open conversation with people who’ve traveled a similar path. ThePornEvent.com is for anyone who is interested in what it looks like to live a life beyond pornography.

Men’s Segment

During the men’s segment of ThePornEvent.com, we’ll take an honest look at how porn affects us as men, fathers, and husbands. Through stories, answers to common questions, and open conversation we will talk about the hope men can find in life beyond pornography.

Women’s Segment

During the women’s segment of ThePornEvent.com, we will talk about how porn affects us as women, mothers, and wives. Through stories, answers to common questions, and open conversation we will talk about the hope found beyond our personal struggles with porn and also how to support and care for family members that are dealing with sexual addiction.

Please spread the word about this event!

Why is pornography such a problem in the Christian Community?

As I reflect on my time as a Prison Warden, I have come to the conclusion that you could almost lump each and every offender into one big category.  That category was “Greedy, Selfish Sinners!” some were more violent than other but none the less that’s the category.

As I reflect on my time as a Pastor, one of the most challenging and common areas in which I have to provide pastoral care is in the area of individuals having affairs; they also fall into the same category of  “Greedy, Selfish Sinners!”  The trends and stories are generally similar… Guy meets girl, guy and girl fall in love and get married; guy or girl claims they’re not satisfied, they become greedy, they’re selfish, they want more; Guy or girl begin to put their trust in something or someone else.  Poof the affair happens, hearts are broken, lives are destroyed and the saga continues. 

Just as my heart would ache for the families that would come visit their love ones in the prison system; my heart is crushed seeing the countless couples destroying heir marriages, their families and their lives because of an affair.  Marriage is not a joke, the covenant that couples establish before God is not a joke, those flirtatious ways are not a joke, those emotional connections with someone of the opposite sex outside of marriage is not a joke, clicking on that favorite internet porn site is not a joke… It’s Not A Joke… Stop Having Affairs! 

Still reflecting on my time as a Prison Warden, in some cases I think it might not be a bad idea for instigators and perpetrators of affairs to spend some time behind the prison walls.  Not sure if it would help, but I do know there is a different level of repentance that happens behind those walls.  It’s Not A Joke… Stop Having Affairs!  

I read a quote from author Doris Mortman, and she says “Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.”  I’d take that a step further and say until you truly know who you are in Christ, you’ll never be content with what you have.” 

Share your thoughts, experiences or stories about these stupid affairs?  Would prison help?

I am going to just rant a little bit this morning… so please excuse my run on-ranting sentence:  I will be honest, I had no idea that porn was as enormous of a problem as it is prior to being in full-time vocational ministry, I worked in the prison system or some facet of corrections for nearly 13 years prior to ministry and porn was not discussed as a matter of fact inmates would stay as far from sexual problems as they could because once you were labeled a sex offender or had sex problems, then life behind the prison walls was a little more difficult for you, if you know what I mean; since I have been in ministry and as recent as yesterday, I have had countless couples come into my office, and a wife sitting there with her heart ripped out because of her husbands porn addiction, secrets, lies, deception, double lives, infidelity, dishonesty, breaking of the covenant they have established before God… we all have our struggles, pornography just doesn’t happen to be one of mine, which may of played into my naivety years ago as to the degree of this problem, some statistics say that 50% of christian men struggle with pornography, more than half of the men attending the Christian men’s Promise Keeper rallies admitted to viewing pornography, and 37 percent of Christian pastors admitted to being addicted to porn, this is a problem, guys- if you are struggling go talk to someone today, expose it, tell your wife; pastors- talk about it, preach about it, let your congregation know its real and they are not alone, go check out XXX Church’s website, get some accountability, you are not keeping this from God… He already knows; below is a 60 second trailer for a porn documentary “Somebody’s Daughter” and this is an article about the documentary, you can watch the Porn Pastor Craig Gross from XXX Church’s message that he did on National Porn Sunday here; fellas confess your sins to another, seek prayer and begin to be healed… this porn crap is pissing me off! making me mad! I’m finished ranting for now… feel free to join in!