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This Is Why You Fail

failDo you want to know why you fail?

Look in the mirror.

There is no way around it. We can make excuses, look at various scenarios, evaluate factors, point fingers and make countless excuses along the way. You are the reason that you fail. It’s your thoughts, your beliefs, your decisions and your actions.

Don’t beat yourself up about the fact that you are the reason that you fail. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Here is the light: You Are The Reason You Succeed. Of course you need God’s blessing, help from others, mentorship and opportunities to present themselves. More importantly, you need to understand and tap into the same things that cause you to fail in order to have real success. It’s your thoughts, your beliefs, your decisions and your actions that will lead to your success.

Now Go Succeed.

First World Problems ((Video))

This video explains the types of First World Problems that exist. If you don’t believe me just glance through your twitter stream, better yet simply glance through your tweets. 🙂

I know the folks that lead the organization that put this video together and they are truly making a difference and bringing clean water and hope to those that desperately need it.

When Crazy Is Normal

It’s great to be back in one of my favorite cities in the world – Oklahoma City, OK. I had an amazing time in Nigeria and I walked away with lots of new learning’s, epiphanies and revelations.

One of my many observations was the flow of the transportation system. The roads in some places were rougher than the most rural roads you can find in the US. About half of the drivers were on motorcycles and the other half were in a car of some sort. Actually Toyota is by far the vehicle of choice in Benin City, Nigeria.

You have these rough roads, with stretches of decent roads and you have people that drive like New York  City cab drivers after drinking a couple of 5-hr energy drinks. You have lots of people walking around and to top it all off “Pedestrians Don’t Have The Right-Away.” In other words if you are walking across the street, near the street, have a child in your arms… you will get honked at and plowed over by a vehicle if you don’t hurry up and get out of the way. It’s actually crazy.

I talked to my friend Ayo who was on the trip with me about the driving situation. 5 years ago Ayo moved from Nigeria to Atlanta and he said it’s crazy for people in the US to think that they can walk in front of a multi-ton steel machine and think that the machine should stop for them. He said that’s actually crazy. 

The craziest thing about the crazy driving situation in Nigeria is the fact that I didn’t see any wrecks, I didn’t see anyone giving someone the bird because someone honked at them or cut them off, I didn’t see anyone get hit by a car and driving was an ends to a mean and people didn’t really get emotional about it one way or another. This whole system was crazy to me; however I began to see how normal it was.

Once I returned to my home in suburban USA, I watched the news and saw an incident that happened at a Super Target Store not far from my home. According to news reports two vehicle drivers got involved in some type of road rage incident that led the men to meet in a Target Parking lot. One of the men (57 years old) confronted the other (29 year old) man, pulled out a gun shot and killed him. The 29 year old was going to school to be a Doctor.

Please draw your own conclusion… I’ll simply end this post with these words.

When Crazy Is Normal

Share your thoughts!

The Power Of Imagination

I love ideas… one of my mantras is “Everything Begins With An Idea.”

Check out John Acuff’s thoughts on the importance of ideas and idea time.

The One Question Ministry Leaders Need To Stop Asking

In my opinion the one question that ministry leaders need to stop asking is this: “How Can We Get More Volunteers?” Although that may seem like a good question, a better question is “How can we get more people to be carriers of the vision.” First of all the vision must be rooted in the Great Commissions and Jesus’ call for us to “Go” or “As we are Going” to make disciples of all nations.

If ministry leaders tap into how to create more carriers of the vision, volunteer challenges will diminish. People will be busting down the doors to serve and excited to be a part of that particular ministry. Find a church that is doing well in the area of volunteer engagement and you will find a church that has people carrying the vision by the bucket loads. You will find a group of people excited about reaching their community and unapologetic about making disciples.

Ministry leaders and staff should be the chief vision carriers, leaking the vision every opportunity they get.  The same thing applies to members, attenders and volunteers.  If you believe in your church’s vision, you should be leaking it like a reporter with exclusive insider information. Leak it and leak it often!  Adopting that “I have to share what God is doing through this ministry, I love being involved, we have a community to reach, our mission is the great commission” mentality is what’s necessary to be a vision carrier and create vision carriers.

The One Question Ministry Leaders Need To Stop Asking is: “How Can We Get More Volunteers?”  Ministry leaders should instead begin asking these three questions: “What Is Our Vision? Does Our Mission Align With The Great Commission? How Can We Create More Carriers Of The Vision?”

What are your thoughts?

How Do You Define Greatness?

“Greatness” is such a vividly descriptive word that epitomizes the height of success.  We know greatness when we see it.  We can imagine the propensity for greatness residing in someone that currently only has potential.  How does greatness happen?  How do you achieve greatness? How do you define greatness?

Greatness occurs when an individual’s inward fire of passion collides with fuel of their deep inward desire to be great.  Passion alone won’t get you there.  Deep inward desire will get you close, but it won’t get you there.

Passion + Desire = Greatness Fire!

That’s How You Achieve and Define Greatness. 

Share your thoughts on passion, desire and greatness.

Ladies, STOP Lusting After Your Pastor

I remember having a conversation with a pastor friend of mine who happens to be a female.  She was sharing the various unique things that women in the church struggle with and things they have confided in her.  One of the things that she shared made me have one of those “hmm” moments.  She stated that women that she’s talked w/ in various churches struggle with the fact that They Think Their Pastor’s Sexy!  Not to be confused with the popular country music song “She Thinks My Tractor’s Sexy.” Not only do they think their Pastor’s Sexy, but they struggle with their mind and eyes wandering into inappropriate places.  It becomes a challenge because they will have these lustful thoughts as their pastor is speaking. The same can be true for men with a female pastors or lust in general.

Many pastors teach the concept out of the book Every Mans Battle called “Bouncing Your Eyes.” In other words, don’t keep your eyes focused on someone of the opposite sex for too long.   Keeping your eyes moving can keep you out of trouble.  This is something that is stereotypically geared towards guys… but what about the ladies?  There is a book called Every Womans Battle, although I have not heard anything about the content.

After my conversation with my female pastor friend, it’s probably fair for me to make the assumption that there are women sitting in pews and seats of churches all around the country that may be struggling with the inability to “Bounce Their Eyes;”  especially as their eyes are having to be fixated on their “Sexy Pastor,” who happens to be in front of them for relatively lengthy periods of time each and every week.  The fact that their pastor is a man of God, tells great stories and seems to be rather put together only increases the the sexiness factor.

The thoughts running through their head might be something like this: He’s Hot, I like that suit, Are those True Religion Jeans, He’s so spiritual, I wish my husband treated me like that, He’s so Handsome, Nice Hair, He dresses so fly, I can tell he’s been working out, He’s so considerate, I know he’s married but, I would, I wonder if I can share that with him, I bet he… After thinking these thoughts, their mind wanders for a moment or two or three or four and unfortunately, this cycle can repeat itself on a weekly basis.  The Bible says this: ”But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28  Ladies this passage applies to you as well, so please Stop Lusting After Your Pastor!

God created us with a unique ability to train and control our eyes, actions and mind.  Exercise your ability and gain control.

Do women get a pass? Is this a problem? How does play into the overall adultery scheme of things? Share your thoughts.

A Life Changing Question

I was at a conference a couple of years ago.

Seth Godin was speaking.

I like Seth Godin.

Seth Godin asked the following question below:

Is your agenda about mediocre obedience or relentless curiosity?

I still think about this question.

Sometimes a great question is better than a great answer.

This question helps to define our current reality and our inevitable future.

What is your agenda?

What’s In Between Where You Are and Where You Want To Be

What’s in between where you are and where you want to be. These are my morning thoughts in my journal from the #OKC airport, posted from my iPhone. What do you find in between where you are and where you want to be?


What Did You Learn This Weekend?

Simple Question: What did you learn this weekend? At church, vacationing, from your kids, reading, working, hanging with friends…

I’ll Go First!

I learned that “A little poop goes a long way.”  Be sensitive to the things that you consume and watch your toxic influences.

Now it’s your turn…  What did you learn?

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