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One Word!!!

Nice, authentic, hard-hitting spoken word piece.

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3 Easy Ways To Avoid Criticism

criticism 2Criticism is a one of those words that seems to cut most people like a knife.  Although the knife doesn’t seem as sharp when we put the word “constructive” in front of the word criticism; none-the-less the word still seems to pierce.

When I was growing up my mom would always tell me: “Son, you can’t control or worry about what people say… you can only control what you say and what you do.”  Later on in life, as a young leader I had a mentor that would always say “If you’re doing something worthy of people taking shots at you… they will.  I would much rather have a leader that people don’t always understand and who are occasionally criticized, than a “leader” that no one ever talks about.”   I’ve heard my pastor say something like “If you want to find the leader, look for the one with the arrow in their back!”

Don’t get me wrong, sometimes criticism is necessary.  It’s important to have the people closest to you speak candidly into your life and seek wise counsel from those who will shoot you straight.  It’s important to view criticism as neutral… “It Is What It Is!”  This neutral mindset allows you to be comfortable with, “Eating The Meat and Spitting Out The Bones!”  If you don’t want to be criticized, follow these 3 Easy Steps To Avoid Criticism:

  • 1. Say Nothing
  • 2. Do Nothing
  • 3. Be Nothing

If you want to silence the critics, be yourself and do the right thing.

It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

I don’t ever want to find myself in the place with those “Cold and Timid Souls.”

Silence The Critics!


God Of Second Chances

This is an older video that @loswhit shot. Basically he’s shooting the video for his song “God Of Second Chances” and a homeless man joins in and starts jammin’ some reggae with him. Definitely worth 5 minutes of your day. Enjoy!!!

God is truly a God of 2nd Chances and he uses a youtube video like this to communicate it to the world.


The Manipulating Leader

manipulatorOften times you find yourself under the tutelage of a Manipulating Leader. You ask yourself “How did this happen?”Initially, you were drawn in by their confidence, their persuasiveness, their interpersonal skills and their success. The traits that originally drew you to that leader are now being used to manipulate you and the rest of your organization.

Yes! Fast forward a few years, a few seasons, a few successes, a few failures and those appealing traits are now being used to manipulate and control you and every situation around you. The Manipulating Leader is cunning and the manipulation generally comes in the form of “If you don’t do it XYZ way, you are not doing in the right way; If you are not 1,00,000% bought into the organization and willing to sacrifice your family, you are not bought in; If you have a better opportunity for you, your family, your future and everything in between, if you even remotely consider it you are being disloyal; If you have a hobby outside of work it’s seen as interfering with work itself; You should take a significantly less salary than the market suggests in the name of commitment and organizational sacrifice; You should look in the mirror because you are always the problem, the leader and the problem are never the problem, you are the problem…” These are just some of subtle ways that The Manipulating Leader try’s to manipulate and control you and your organization.

One of the greatest attributes you can have as a leader is self-awareness. Leaders should recognize when their leadership has turned into me-me-me manipulation. On the flip side it’s important for individuals that are being manipulated to call out the manipulative and controlling behaviors of their leader. If the situation doesn’t change, you have a responsibility to change the situation.

The more you allow yourself to be manipulated, the more comfortable you will become with the manipulative behavior. Next thing you know, you will fall into the category of The Justifying Leader. (That’s another post for another day)

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11 Simple Keys To Success


I won’t make this post complicated.

I’ll get straight to the point.

11 Simple Keys To Success

This title is actually misleading, success isn’t simple. Although success isn’t simple, the keys below can help you get down the road of success Further, Farther, Faster.

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

~Harriet Tubman

  • 1.) Believe that you will succeed (believing is the key to receiving)
  • 2.) Deprive yourself of sleep from time to time (stay up late and wake up early)
  • 3.) Work hard (success comes to those who work hard)
  • 4.) Remove the distractions (remove yourself from the negative people, places and things)
  • 5.) Learn from the best (do your homework, research online and face-to-face, learning is key)
  • 6.) Fail (the road of success has many mile markers of mistakes and failures)
  • 7.) Stop being scared (fear is the prison where success is confined)
  • 8.) Stay hungry (eating and having a little success is great, keep an appetite for more is greater)
  • 9.) Love what you do (if you are having success at something you don’t love, that’s not success that’s called a little win. Don’t succeed hoping that you will love what you are doing, love what you’re doing and success will come.)
  • 10.) Focus on the things that matter (if you succeed at work and fail at home, you’ve ultimately failed. There will be seasons of working a little harder, faster, later and earlier… that’s okay as long as there is a purpose and plan behind them. Success isn’t simply about you, it’s about opportunities for you and your family, as well as the opportunity to influence the world. Again, if you are succeeding in your career and failing at home, you’re ultimately failing. Success at home and work are not mutually exclusive, they can co-exist, but you must make a point to focus on the things that matter.”
  • 11.) Dream Big. Think Bigger (Everything begins with an idea, every dream has a dreamer… don’t just chase your dreams, catch your dreams and live your dreams.”

“To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence.” ~Mark Twain


The Fundamental Flaw Of Leadership

The Art Of Leadership is not something that comes natural for everyone, although some individuals are uniquely gifted to be more successful than others. The one thing that is certain for all leaders is the fact that in order to be successful they will have to over-come leadership flaws. Leadership flaws come in many shapes, forms and fashions. Just think of the leaders that you have worked for and imagine their flaws that caused you and your co-workers headache and heartache. Imagine your own leadership flaws and the challenges that you might have caused others.

There are enough leadership flaws out there that we could fill up a book of flaws and fixes. In my opinion The Fundamental Flaw Of Leadership is not shooting straight with team members and not allowing them to know where they stand. Time and time again, leaders will talk about the ineptness of a team member or department, without talking to that team member or department head about those particular challenges. A more unfortunate fact is that when these employees are on the ropes and getting ready to be fired or moved to another department and don’t even see it coming.

Leaders have the responsibility of letting people know where they stand. If a person knows where they stand, they know what to fix. As a leader if you find yourself talking about the struggles a team member is having and they don’t know they are having those struggles… you need to look in the mirror, because you are not doing you’re not leading.

Again, if you are a leader and are not letting people know where they stand and not Keeping It Real, you are committing The Fundamental Flaw Of Leadership. Give your team member the one thing they need and that’s the right information. Information is not knowledge and knowledge is empowering. Have the right information, leads to the right knowledge, that leads to the right decisions and ultimately leads to success.

What do you think?  Share your thoughts and experiences with The Fundamental Flaw Of Leadership.


Why Leaders Should Write Down Their Thoughts Daily

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How Leadership Is Like Riding A Bike

bikeAlthough there are thousands of leadership books and leadership gurus, leadership isn’t something you can simply read about… you have to do it. It’s not rocket science, it’s a simple science.

Leadership is just like riding a bike — you can’t just read about riding a bike, you have to get on the bike, have someone help steady you, or maybe use training wheels, try to keep your balance and start pedaling. At first you will be a little wobbly and you may even crash a few times.

If you learn from your mistakes and stay after it, you will definitely get better. Although you may become a proficient bike rider, you must be mindful of the fact that there are plenty of new bike tricks to learn and different levels of bikes to ride.

Leadership is the exact same way, you have to get on the leadership bike, have someone help you get started, start pedaling, crash a few times, learn from your mistakes and continue to grow.

Leadership Is Like Riding a Bike and boils down to these Simple Things:

  • Believe In Yourself
  • Believe In Others
  • Point The Direction
  • Provide An Environment For Growth
  • Inspire and Motivate Others
  • Move People From Here To There
  • dream BIG. think BIGGER.

Often times people make leadership more difficult than it has to be. Leadership is about trust, influence and relationships. Leadership Is Like Riding A Bike, Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu says it this way, “When the effective leader is finished with his work, the people say it happened naturally.” Simply put, it was simple.

“It is by riding a bicycle that you learn the contours of a country best, since you have to sweat up the hills and coast down them. Thus you remember them as they actually are, while in a motor car only a high hill impresses you, and you have no such accurate remembrance of country you have driven through as you gain by riding a bicycle.” ~Ernest Hemingway

Is leadership like riding a bike? Is leadership really that simple? Share your thoughts and experiences with leadership being made more difficult than it had to be.

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The Leader That Can’t Let Go


There is nothing more frustrating than a leader that can’t let go.

  • They can’t let go of the past mistakes that a team member made.
  • They can’t let go of their foolish pride.
  • They can’t let go of their “this is how we’ve always done it” mentality.
  • They can’t let go of yesterday’s successes.
  • They can’t let go of their “kissing-up” behavior.
  • They can’t let go of the details and micromanage their team to death.
  • They can’t let go of their team members – (as if they were theirs to hold onto in the first place).

“The more you hold onto, the less you can grab ahold of.”

If a leader wants to be truly successful, they must learn to let go. If you want to be a leader, you must learn to let go.


Inside The Eyes Of A Great Leader

vision1One quality that great leaders all seem to have in common is having great vision. Great vision not simply from the standpoint of casting great vision, but the uncanny ability to see the things that matter and see the things that contribute to success. Below are 10 things great leaders can see.

“If you want to be a great leader, you must develop great vision.”

  • Great Leaders are able to see what’s coming.
  • Great Leaders are able to see the best in others.
  • Great Leaders are able to see pitfalls.
  • Great Leaders are able to spot leadership potential in others.
  • Great Leaders are able to look in the mirror and be honest with themselves.
  • Great Leaders are able to see the writing on the wall.
  • Great Leaders are able to see successors for themselves and others.
  • Great Leaders are able to see the story behind the story.
  • Great Leaders are able to see The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.
  • Great Leaders are able to see things a little sooner and a little more clearly than others.

“You must be able to see the invisible in order to receive the impossible.”

Share your thoughts on any of these 10… Please add additional things to the list.

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