Do You!

“Do You” is not a question, but rather a statement that I came up with to describe “being yourself.”  Many times we go through life and try to mimic the likes of other people.  You know what I’m talking about, you find some attributes that you admire in a boss, friend, public figure, family member or mentor and attempt to replicate those things and literally try to become that person.  I am not saying that you shouldn’t acknowledge and learn from others strengths; I’m simply saying you need to “Do You,” in otherwords find your own voice/identity in those attributes.  When I went into ministry with LifeChurch.tv, I was surrounded by a lot of gifted leaders with some serious “skilz.”  It would have been easy for me to gravitate towards their style and cultural elements, that I could have lost my own identity. I have intentionally not allowed that to happen, because at the end of the day that’s not who they hired me to be.  

As I lead the NW Oklahoma City Campus of LifeChurch.tv, I have wholeheartedly embraced all of the LifeChurch.tv cultural values, respect the original DNA and am totally sold out to the mission of the ministry.  I am cherishing every minute of my calling, because I am simply “Doing Me” and don’t necessarily care what people think.  Our Senior Pastor posted a Blog entitled “Give Up Your Reputation,” which outlines the fact that with a growing ministry or leadership role; people are going to misquote, criticize and despise you. If we embrace the fact that in life and as “leaders” we are going to experience criticism; why in the world are we trying to be somebody else?   Remember the bigger your role or responsibilty becomes, the smaller your focus should be. BigIsTheNewSmall

Share your thoughts: Are you “Doing You?”  Do you care what others think?  Have you lost some of your personal identity due to a job or role? 


Larry's Life: "30 Days to Live"

At LifeChurch.tv we rolled out a life changing series about four weeks ago entitled, “30 Days to Live.”  There were several touching stories of individuals who had been given a short time to live on this earth.  There were none more compelling than the story of Larry Damerval, who not long ago was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig’s Disease.  Hearing Larry’s story provided me one of those life moments that will be seared into my memory bank forever; as well as the minds of countless others he touched.  Larry passed at roughly 11:00 P.M. this past Saturday night.  I truly believe that we will look back at Larry’s life and his interview, as one of those defining moments in the lives of potentially everyone associated with LifeChurch.tv.  May God provide comfort, peace and strength for the family of this truly special man whose life has touched the lives of so many of us.  

If you have not had the opportunity to see his heartfelt interview answering the question, “What would you do if you had 30 days to live?”  You can check it out here.

Are you living in the moment?  What would you do if you only had 30 Days to Live?  Are you leaving a legacy that honors God?


Marriage Stinks

marriage-rose.jpgMarriage really doesn’t stink; however it can definitely be challenging and the title got your attention.  My wife and I will be teaching Prep for Marriage class at our campus tonight and tomorrow.  We try to offer this class at least three times a year, to accommodate all of the couples who are getting married.  The primary goal of this class is to help couples “Begin the Conversation.”  Marriage is ultimately a commitment before God that requires some serious, on-going and intentional conversation.  As a part of the class, the couples will take the Keirsey Temperament Test and the Five Love Language Test.  I find that these really help couples to understand one another’s God given wirings.  We also talk about love, sex, finances, communication, faith, date nights……  As far as the “Marriage Stinks” title for this post, here area couple of stats to gnaw on:

  • 50% of marriages end in divorce
  • 60% of those marriages end do to pornography
  • 67% of new parents have less sex, less fun and more arguments
  • Christians are no less likely to divorce than non-Christians
  • The primary root for problem facing couples that come to my office for counseling is SELFISHNESS!

Don’t spend so much time preparing for the wedding, but rather preparing for a marriage that honors God.  Love one another according to 1 Corinthians chapter 13.  I know it’s a cliché’ but “Couples that pray together stay together.” Share your thoughts!  Thanks for reading and have a great weekend.


Whyway 3


  • Why do we share our faith so little?

  • Why is the word blog not in spell check?
  • Why are Dalmatians born without spots?
  • Why do 50% of marriages end in divorce?
  • Why do they name hurricanes and not tornadoes?
  • Why do snacks cost so much at the Movie Theatre?
  • Why is it illegal to put graffiti on someone else’s cow in Texas?
  • Why do we have to return our seatbacks forward in an airplane?
  • Why can’t any piece of paper be folded in half more than 7 times?
  • Why are there no words in the English language that rhyme with month?

Share your own “Why” questions, or share your thoughts on any of the above.


iPhone Unlocked

iphone.jpg The “Exclusive AT&T iPhone” has been unlocked, after being the market for only a little over two months.  A 17 year old New Jersey engineering whiz kid George Hotz spent his entire summer vacation trying to crack the code.  George stated that it became an obsession, as he spent over 500 hours trying to come up with a solution to unlock the iPhone.  George simply wanted to use the iPhone on his T-Mobile family plan.  “I unlocked the iPhone, I made the iPhone available for use on networks other than AT&T,” states Hotz.  George had one of his newly unlocked iPhones on eBay which was garnering ridiculous bids; however Terry Daidone, the founder of Certicell contacted him and offered to make a trade for the iPhone.  George ended up trading the piece of history for a sweet Nissan 350Z and 3 8GB iPhones.  Not bad for a summer’s worth of work!  This cracking of the code is apparently legal under the Digital Millennium Copyright Act.  

It seems that this may just the beginning to the implementation of more simple software unlocking solutions for T-Mobile and other GSM providers.  One could only imagine that AT&T is probably not very happy about George’s discovery; however Apple is probably smiling.  Upon release of George’s successful unlocking of the iPhone, Apples stock was up 4.5 points.  Check out George Hotz’s blog, his unlocking video and his CNBC interview.

Does this peak your interest for the iPhone? What are your thoughts about the whiz kid unlocking the iPhone?  Is there a code in your life that you need to crack?

Comments Off on Meeting Freak

Meeting Freak

no-no-no-no.jpgI have always been a firm believer that having too many meetings is totally counter productive for an organization.  I had the opportunity to provide consulting for a number of Juvenile Justice Organizations around the country.  A consistent recommendation that I would have for these agencies was to reduce the number of meetings, and get to work.  Not only would they have a bunch of meetings, but they would have a meeting to schedule another meeting….  That is absolutely ludicrous!  Not only are employees sitting through generally boring meetings; they have preparation time, potential travel time and then download time after the meeting.  I have worked for individuals who like to meet for meetings sake and it would absolutely drive me crazy.   If you are that boss that requires your employees to participate in a bunch of meetings, please stop because you are killing the morale and productivity of your employees.  If you work for a meeting freak, speak up and challenge them to employ a new strategy.  Here are some strategies to consider as it relates to meetings: 

  • If a meeting is regularly scheduled for 1 hour, change it to 45 minutes
  • If you can handle it with a couple minute water cooler conversation; don’t schedule a meeting
  • Require only the necessary people to attend particular meetings
  • Know your employees and facilitate types of meetings that motivate them
  • Change the setting; go to Starbucks, Golf Course, Restaurant, Another Office..
  • Get rid of the PowerPoint presentations; to much prep time and nobody cares
  • Get everyone involved; encourage everyone’s contribution
  • Speak up; if the meetings are boring or just plain suck, let it be known
  • Don’t get me started on conference calls!
  • The bigger and more successful an organization becomes, the more laser focused and smaller their meetings should become – BigIsTheNewSmall

Are you that meeting freak or do you know someone who is?  Share your thoughts! 


Weekend Off


I had the weekend off and it was the first time in a very long time.  I thought I would share some of my last few days of life experiences: 

FRIDAY– My wife and I went to Clinton, Oklahoma for the rehearsal dinner for a couple that I was marrying.  They had a huge Cajun crab boil (a bunch of food dumped on a table) and believe it or not my wife and I both enjoyed it.  We are very simple eaters and we tried everything except for the crawfish.  No Thanks! 

SATURDAY– I had the privilege to marry James and Joanna Roller, the ceremony was great and they are off to Las Vegas.   I made it back in time to watch my Sooner’s absolutely throttle North Texas; they could have scored at least 100 points.  It’s going to be a great season! 

SUNDAY– I watched the LifeChurch.tv message on the Internet Campus; it was cool to chat with the folks attending the IC.  My family and I also attended the People’s Church this morning, led by Senior Pastor Herbert Cooper.  We all had a great time and enjoyed the life application from the message.  Herbert is a gifted leader, great communicator and has a God-Sized vision for People’s Church.  Their ministry is doing awesome and I really believe that God is just getting started.  I think Herbert says it best, “THE BEST IS YET TO COME.”  Check out Herbert’s Blog: www.herbertcooper.com 

We had lunch at Applebee’s and then we took the boys to the Dollar Movie to see Shreck the 3rd.  I have not been to a dollar movie in forever, let me just say “You get what you pay for.”


Sooners Win National Championship

ou.JPGIt was great to recently see the vehicle that is pictured in this blog.  This is what you call a true, die hard Oklahoma Sooner fan.  College Football season kicks off tomorrow and I could not be more excited.  This year the national ESPN guys are finally giving OU their props.  They all have either OU playing in the national championship or winning it.  The bottom line is that their schedule sets up nicely to do just that.  I am going to make a bold prediction, and yes it will be documented on my blog.  I am picking my Sooner’s to go undefeated and win the National Championship.  I am making this prediction for an OU Team that has some serious unanswered questions, specifically with a red shirt freshman starting at QB.  Please share your comment and represent! 

Who is your favorite college football team and who do you think will win the national championship this year?


Omazing Grace

When I first watched this video, I didn’t know whether to laugh, cry or pray for the family of the deceased. Please watch the video in it’s entirety, it get’s really good at the end. When you finish the video please share your personal thoughts, along with a specific comment of whether the video made you laugh , cry, or pray.    



Religion and Politics

religion-and-politics.jpgI had the opportunity to do be a political consultant for a number of years prior to being in full time ministry.  My involvement was both locally and nationally, which allowed the opportunity to experience a lot, both positive and negative.  Now that I am removed from the political scene,J that old saying “You Don’t Mix Religion and Politics” has become more of a question for me.  Why don’t you mix religion and politics?  Lyndon B. Johnson pushed a law through in 1954 that prohibited Tax-Exempt organizations, including churches from participating or intervening in elections on behalf of any candidates.  I am not referring to churches or pastors pushing candidates, I am referring to a more personal thought process.  Throughout scripture there are passages that discuss the following: government, laws, leaders, rulers…. and the responsibility they have, as well as discussing our role as followers.  Has our society become so politically correct, that it has become “Taboo” to “Mix Religion and Politics?”  I am going to throw some questions out and I would love to get your feedback. 

  • Does your faith affect your decisions at the poll? 
  • Do you agree or disagree with the premise of not mixing religion and politics? 
  • Is this one of those “Pink Elephant” in the room subjects that we just want to avoid?

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