Often times the key to a successful life is when things are in proper perspective and proper focus. I’m not talking about balance, I’m talking about focus and priorities. Focusing on God, Family and Everything Else — In that order. On the flip-side, the shortest route to failure is a life that gets out of focus.
How Do You Know When Your Life Is Out Of Focus?
When you begin to ask yourself questions like, “Why am I feeling this way?”, “Why doesn’t this feel right?” “Why do I feel like I’m going nowhere” and “Is my life out of focus?”
You will know your life is out of focus:
When you begin to focus more on what “so and so” is or isn’t doing than focussing on what you need to do.
When your work gets more time and attention than your family.
When your cup is always half empty.
When you can’t seem to find peace.
There are many signs and symptoms that your life is out of focus, the key is taking the time to ask the tough questions. Ask your family, ask your friends and take a hard look in the mirror and ask yourself “Am I Focused On The Things That Matter?”
Embrace the journey, stay focused and you will reach a proper destination.
Well the NBA Finals wrapped up with the team with the best record in the NBA hoisting the Larry O’Brien Championship Trophy. Yes, the San Antonio Spurs are the 2014 NBA champions after missing the opportunity to win their 5th title last year, they seized the moment this year. Even though the #Spurs had the best record and best coach in the NBA, this championship is unlikely because everyone including them Heat had pretty much crowned themselves as the 2014 NBA Champions, a 3-Peat and LeBron on NBA’s Mt. Rushmore before the season even started. Not so fast my friend, the Spurs are the new Sheriff in town. Well they are the old Sheriff thats back in town.
The Spurs were led by a cast of awesome players that know how to play team basketball. They are truly a team where night in and night out a different team member shows up. As a matter of fact most people had never heard of the man of the Spurs players including finals MVP Kawhi Leonard, especially before the last couple of games. To this day only a few people can even spell his name correctly. Uhh Kuh-why?
Not only did the Spurs have a great team but they were smarter, more disciplined and better coached than any other team in the NBA. The Spurs were lead by the veteran of all veterans, Tim Duncan. Duncan will go down as one of the greatest NBA Superstars ever. Duncan now has the most playoff games and double-doubles of any player in NBA history. Duncan is a SuperStar who shined bright like a diamond while staying outside of the spotlight. Speaking of diamonds and spotlights King James tried to shine but his teammates didn’t help him sparkle. As a result, can we please not talk about the #Heat #LeBron #Bulls and #Jordan in the same sentence for a long time. Like ever!
We can talk about Tim Duncan, not only can we talk about him, there is a lot to learn about life and leadership from him and his career.
10 Great Leadership Lessons From Tim Duncan’s Career.
- 1. Substance Over Style – “The Big Fundamental” Looking good is great, performing great is better. Duncan doesn’t win the style contest, but he is a straight up winner.
- 2. Greatness Is Appreciated More When It’s Gone – Tim Duncan’s Game, Career and Place in history won’t be appreciated until he’s retired and gone.
- 3. Great Leaders Know When To Defer – Duncan has admittedly turned the team over to Tony Parker, which has extended his career and allowed him to continue his greatness. It looks like he may be turning it over to Mr. About His Business Kawhi Leonard real soon.
- 4. You Can’t Care What People Think – Duncan doesn’t get the commercials, the shoes, the endorsements… He just gets the trophies. Duncan could care less what people think about his personality or lack there of, all he does is win.
- 5. Classy over Sassy – Tim Duncan is one of the classiest players in the NBA. It’s hard not to like classy… when in doubt, keep it classy.
- 6. Quietly Be The Best At What You Do – Tim Duncan will quietly go down as one of the best power forwards to ever play the game. Period, the end.
- 7. Nice Guys Don’t Finish Last – Nice guys finish wherever they want to finish, Duncan is nice and he doesn’t finish last. 🙂
- 8. Get Better With Age – Just like a fine wine, they say some things get better with age, great leaders get better, lead better, play better and make better decisions with age. Duncan seems to get better the older that he gets.
- 9. Know How To Lead Up – Duncan plays for a tough coach and he’s one of the few players that knows how to lead up, talk to Popovich, how to handle him in the media and how to lead up. There is an art to leading up and Duncan figured it out.
- 10. Make Those Around You Better – Duncan makes his teammates, his coach, his city, his community and the NBA better.
You can miss the opportunity to appreciate your success, the wins, the losses and the journey if you don’t take the time to pause, reflect and take a look back. Pause, look back, appreciate the past…
Learn To Appreciate The Journey.
Success is often found somewhere between appreciating the journey and looking towards the future.
Things are looking good, your career is on the rise, you have a young family, nice house, nice cars and success might as well be tattooed across your forehead. The status of your social media profiles simply read “succeeding.” You are in the who’s who, 40 under 40 and your latest promotion has you slated to be the next bigger thing.
While you are busy succeeding, your children are busy growing and you don’t even realize it. While you are busy succeeding, you are not spending quality time with your spouse.
Time is fading and your success is clouding your ability to see what’s happening. Not only are you looking past what’s happening, the intoxicating nature of your perceived success is allowing you to justify your absence and lack of focus on the things that really do matter.
Time is passing and success is continuing to knock on your door.
Due to unexpected events and circumstances, you’re forced to pause long enough to reflect upon what you had been perceiving as success.
Suddenly, you realize.
You Thought That You Were Succeeding But You Actually Failed Big Time.
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Often times when an organization faces challenges, shortfalls and doesn’t live up to expectations… fingers start pointing everywhere. The finger pointing is a natural sign and symbol of trying to place the blame and figure things out. The finger pointing is often followed by pink slips, excuses and questions.
There is a timeless organizational principle that I like to live by and help the organizations that I coach to always take a hard look at. The principle is simply this:
“If your organization isn’t getting the desired results, look no farther than the leader.”
You can’t point as many fingers as you want, make more excuses than failure itself; however solutions can truly only be found by looking at the leader. Yes the team has to perform, but the leader is ultimately responsible for the strategy, hiring, firing and coaching of those team members.
If your organization is having challenges, look no farther than the leader for solutions.
I see people get themselves in trouble more times than not by responding to and addressing things that don’t require a response. Not only do most things not require a response, often times they don’t even deserve a response.
Okay, so your naysayers have something negative to say about you, sometimes your best response is simply no response. You may find yourself in a back and forth argument, you can actually choose not be be the forth in the back and forth conversation; therefore the argument ceases.
In the world of social media and the day and age of everyone constantly trying to prove themselves, you are probably wasting way to much time, energy and breath on things that don’t deserve either of the three.
There is a time to speak and at time to listen. The less you respond to things that don’t deserve a response, the more peaceful your life will be.
Everything Doesn’t Require A Response.
We live in a world of to-do lists, goals and New Years Resolutions. Everyone is looking forward to starting something, going to the gym, starting the conversation, starting the journey… Instead of focusing so much energy and attention on what you need to start, you should try a different approach. How about focusing on the things you need to stop and awesome life results will be the natural by-product.
Try This! (In no particular order)
15 Things You Need To Stop Doing… Right Now!
- 1. Stop placing your job above your family.
- 2. Stop doubting yourself.
- 3. Stop believing the lies.
- 4. Stop settling for second best.
- 5. Stop procrastinating.
- 6. Stop making excuses.
- 7. Stop talking so much.
- 8. Stop trying to please everyone.
- 9. Stop comparing yourself to others.
- 10. Stop standing paralyzed in awe of the success of others.
- 11. Stop tippy-toeing on that line of sin.
- 12. Stop being consumed with what other people think.
- 13 Stop worrying about things that really don’t matter.
- 14. Stop Going, Going, Going without Resting, Resting, Resting.
- 15. Stop calling God a liar… He’s says “You Can” stop saying you can’t.